do you still think about your ex?

Question

I split up with y first love / ex 3 years ago. I have a new partner but I often think about my ex. I often wonder if he thinks about me, we were together for 4 years and I was his first love (he told me I am the first girl he ever loved a couple of years ago, amd we lived together for couple of years too). I know we wont be getting back together, he has moved on, I just wonder if he does think about me at times. I guess I have this idea that he does, and that it is all of the nice stuff. I m just wondering I guess, it would be cool to hae a male perspective on this. Thank you

Answer 1

i still think about my ex even though i know we will never get back togrether as both have new partners she was my first love i just wish we had met when we where both a bit older

Answer 2

I guess it all depends: I almost never think about any of my exes unless I am in a relationship that is falling apart or not working out (and then your mind invariably does that compare and contrast thing) once I've figured out what went wrong and resolved everything in my own mind.

But then, I take a lot of time to grieve in-between serious romances (can't help it; I pour over every detail until that little light-bulb lights up in my head one day, and then they begin to fade very rapidly from my conciousness, and then it's all about "the past has passed", and "moving on").

So I ask you, why are you thinking about your ex? Feelings of guilt or betrayal that are not resolved? Did you really figure out why it didn't work out? Are you generally happy now?

Answer 3

I think about my ex quite often. She was great.

If you know you won't be getting back together you have to ask yourself about your feelings for your ex. If you still secretly want him back then its obviously not so fair for the person you're with now. You should look into it in that case.

If you're just thinking about the good stuff and have happy wishes for your ex and his new partner then thats pretty grown up I guess. (I am absolutley NOT like that at all!)

Answer 4

yes i still think about my ex quite a few times now and then,and i am married now with 3 kids and we have been together for five years now.i met my husbund 3 mthes after splitting from my ex and me and my ex was together for 2 yrs living together for 1 engaged whent though mis-carriage.he only lives 10 mins away from me but i dont think he still thinks about me cause we never spoke to eachother after we split the friendship went with the relationship.

Answer 5

yes he was violent,
I've been split with him a year tomorrow,
He was the most manipulative piece of work I have ever met.
I went into refuge and since I left him my life has been amazing.
I got rehoused into a 4 bedroom council house,
Got therapy
Declared bankruptcy,
Decorated my house by myself,
I passed my driving test on the 1st attempt and tomorrow i'm buying my 1st car.

He's such a pathetic waste of a man, he couldn't even turn up to see her at the contact center, let alone buy he a xmas card or present.

Answer 6

No.My EX is My Ex for a reason.Plain and simple it did'nt work out and I have moved on.You think that you have moved on but my dear you are only fooling yourself.You need to completely let go before you can ever love again.He is your Ex let him go.

Answer 7

Its the healthy thing to focus on moving on. If you find yourself thinking of a special ex(like i do), you have to immediately think of something different.

If you get caught up on past girlfriends it will gradually mess with your head.

It sounds crazy, but you must keep reminding yourself why you broke up...this will gradually help you forget them.

Answer 8

I dont think about my ex's nor do i wonder if they think about me. My relationship needs to be between my husband and I. Not someone that happened in the past.

Answer 9

7 years on, I still think about my MIRACLE girlfriend, every second of every day. I feel trapped in the future, longing for the past and would give absolutely anything to turn the clock back and to fix all that went wrong.

My advice to anyone would be to, get it right first time and never, never argue. Instead if you love the person, reason with them, back down, compromise or do whatever you have to do to calm the waters.

There is never any reason to argue. When we argue we are not in harmony with each other, we get defensive and more importantly, arguments can escalate into disaster; Even worse than this, many times we can end up looking back after the event and realising that the argument was over something petty and rediculous. You may even wake up in despair one morning because you replay events of the past and realise that you were more to blame than you ever thought.

The moral of the story is not to let anger, over nothing, cloud your judgement. These are my lessons in Love:

Lessons in Love.

True Love can never be guaranteed.

Don’t over react in any given situation.

Don’t become a victim of your own stupidity.

Be fully aware of all circumstances all of the time.

Remember that it is possible to be too self protective.

Be wary of miscommunication and misinterpretation.

Compromise with the one You Love as much as possible.

When in Love, always try and save the Love in times of crisis.

Remember that Love is as much a matter of choice as anything else.

The best way to remove yourself from blame is to think before You speak.

When it comes to Love and Romance, don’t hold back, give of yourself fully.

Don’t overstep the mark when it comes to another persons level of self-respect.

Always sleep on any major decisions or changes that You are thinking of making.

Look at the situation from the other persons perspective before making a mistake.

Try to live your life with prior hindsight to avoid living life in regret, hurt and pain.

Don’t continually look for the fairytale of Love and miss the Diamond before You.

In times of change, remain true to the one You love and don’t let circumstances alter.

When in Love always carry and have reminders of love all around You and on display.

Continue the Courtship of Love, Romance and affection throughout your relationship.

Never rake up old hurts to fill new wounds, accept the risk, bury the past and move on.

Always treat another as You would wish to be treated, however wronged You may feel.

At times of crisis focus on happier times, days and events and never let go of the dream.

If an argument occurs remove yourself from it as quickly and as diplomatically as possible.

Remember that even the slightest words of criticism can do more harm than good and cut deep.

If your loved one seems insecure and unsure then your job is to make them feel secure and sure.

Accept your differences and create a harmonious relationship that can withstand the test of time.

Ask questions to ensure that You are both on the same wave length and pathway of Life and Love.

Love your partner the most in times of crisis and the chances of losing them will be greatly reduced.

The best time to save a relationship is when You are in it and not after the event or years down the line.

Don’t focus on “I”, Focus on us, we, togetherness and a lifetime of selfless Romance, Love and Devotion.

Accept your loved one as a complete package . Take the good with the bad and the rough with the smooth.

Never allow the negative thoughts, words and actions of another to effect your words, thoughts and actions.

Remember that You are not the only person in the World that could offer a great life to the one that You Love.

Answer 10

Not a day goes by without me thinking of my ex. I pray for her daily, that she'll be happy, and loved, and at peace.