My friend is cheating on her husband with another man. They've been doing this for over a year and my friend does not seem to care. I recently found out that she has been using me as her cover (telling her husband she's coming to my house, going shopping with me, etc.) while she goes out with this other man. She has even begun having this man over to her house while her husband is working. She has admitted she's only staying with her husband so that she can divorce him in a few months (once this other man gets his own place) and claim her "feelings have changed" and take him to court so she can keep the house. Her husband is an incredibly sweet, hardworking man who devotes all of his time to her. Should I break down and tell her husband what he's doing? And if not, what options do I have?
2007-01-13 03:26:23 · 21 answers · asked by forever.devoted 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's a real mindfield
A. she's not your friend !! they don't use and put a friend in that position.
b. talk to this person tell her to stop using you and tell her husband now or you will. If she thinks you'd tell him she may be forced to sort this out.
C. If her husband is oblivious to it all he may not believe you anyway. the best way is trick her into confessing or If you know where she does hang out with that guy. If nothing changes give him the address or take him by there if possible so he can witness it for himself.
This Female is doomed anyway. This new guy will leave her without question. The only good to come out of it is if her husband does manage to get rid of her. The best thing she could do for him.
Getting in the middle of this isn't the first choice it may back fire she will resent you and he may because he was happy not knowing thinking all was just fine.
2007-01-13 03:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately let her husband know. Sit him down and prepare him for the worst. He can then decide what to do next.
Also, let her know that a true friend wouldn't put her in the situation in which she has put you, and that you will no longer be her alibi.
A third, and probably the best thing you can do is stand by him in court and explain to the court her that she has been unfaithful to him. While he may not get to keep the house in many states, it may save him alimony or at least some sanity.
2007-01-13 11:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep her as a friend no. If you don't care about her any more then I would tell him what she is up to so that he can plan without her knowing so he doesn't lose his house. I personally feel that if he is a nice man and she is the bad one then he needs to know because he doesn't deserve what she is doing, or about to do to him. Ask him to not tell her how he found out, you could suffer a lot. He can easily catch her in the act if he has the knowledge of what is happening without involving you further.
2007-01-13 11:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would get proof. Maybe a photo or something and then meet up with him so He knows whats going on. Dont cover for her. If it was you wouldnt you want to know. Tell him what shes gonna do (i.e try and take the house). If he has proof she cheated he doesnt have to give her the house or alimony or anythiong more thatn the "half of everything" she wont have a case for alimony
2007-01-13 11:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him. I would rather someone tell me my husband was cheating then to look like a fool. Especially if she is using you as a cover up. You are helping her if your not honest with him.
Keep in mind though, you will probably loose her friendship. Are you prepared for that?
Good luck !
2007-01-13 11:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Newmomofone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this chick is a real Beotch!!! now that I got that out of the way, you would be doing your friend's husband a HUGE favor by telling him. By the way, your "friend" is using you to pull this off. How does that feel?
2007-01-13 11:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's your friend and you want to keep her as such, don't go to her husband or your friendship is over. Speak to her instead. Tell her you're not comfortable with what she is doing and you do not want to be a part of it. If you need to clarify it to her, tell her that means not using you as a cover. Just mention kindly, and as a friend, that you care about her and you feel she's not doing the right thing.
2007-01-13 11:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dacious P.I. 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hell, Yes! This guy DESERVES to know what his wife is doing, especially if she's doing it in HIS BED! From what you say, the guy is a hard working dedicated man, who doesn't deserve to be shat upon, then lose everything he's worked for in a lousy divorce from some uncaring, selfish B*@ch. Maybe YOU would be a better person for him to be married to, not your friend!
2007-01-13 11:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by dizzyhorse 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'd say leave it to her,but dont let her use you as a cover-up.if her husband calls asking for her,tell him she isnt there and hasnt been there all day.if she does decide to divorce this guy and keep the house,testify and say HE has the right to keep the house.
2007-01-13 15:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Savannah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her husband is such a good guy, then why is she cheating. Sometimes a man and a woman have an "understanding" that can not be seen with the naked eye.
I would stay out of it.
2007-01-13 11:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋