Sombody help me ?

Question

Poeple say love and lust is different, me and my x broke up i really loved him i did EVERYTHING in my power to keep him, he was with me for 10 mths, a few points i think he was in love with me, but maybe i was fooled . I helped him even. but know he doesnt want to talk to me and he never said goodbye my heart can't go at piece until he says goodbye atleast. Im calling all his friends to make sure they tell him that i will always love him, I'm only 23 yrs old and i feel that he will be my last love i will be probably lonely, and i can't have sex with somone unless i love them, my heart hurts sooo bad can sombody help me how do i get this feeling away from me cause IM MESSED UP. (Every time i call he don't answer or his phone's shut off)

Answer 1

I can relate to this a little. I know you think you need him to give you some sort of closure by saying goodbye but he's already demonstrating that he's done with the relationship by not taking or returning your phone calls. Calling his friends to get a message to him is only gonna make you look obsessive. Let it go sweetie. This is one of those things that is probably gonna take a little time to get over. Get one last good cry out and move on emotionally.

Answer 2

Well we all know that letting go isn't easy to do and sometimes we dont want to. So the 1st step is to admit to yourself that you must move on and that u realize that. I'm pretty sure thats what he's done. You're only 23 and you've got the rest of your life to find a TRUE LOVE who will NEVER leave without saying goodbye and willing to give their whole life to you. So just cut everything loose about this guy. It's gonna take some time but in the end you'll feel like a brand new WOMAN.

Answer 3

You are NOT messed up, hon, even though you might feel that way.

You are just an emotional wreck, thats all, but in due time, the pain will disappear

Moving on is the best revenge, so This is waht I did:
I signed up with a Gym
Went on a protein shake diet and ate very healthy
I got in touch with my girls (they were very supportive about everything)

My advice to you is that you get in touch with yourself (that includes spiritually as well) and move on for your own good and stop calling him.

Wait a while before getting into another relationship (although you can go out for coffee or something sometimes)

Goodluck

Answer 4

You are not feeling any thing new. Every one goes through this no matter the age. I know it will be hard but let go. You are only making it worse for you. If it was meant to be he may come back. But leave him alone for now. Try your best to go on for your own peace of mind. The right man is out there give him a chance to find you. You deserve a guy who will love you as much as you love him. But next time make sure it is real before you give your self to him. Best luck. It will get better trust me i know.

Answer 5

You gotta stop calling him, take some me time. i know its' not what you want to hear but it's the best solution. Right now to his friends and to him you probably seem like a pycho chick. Don't let them use you for entertainment. Focus on other things. It took me five months to get over my first love and i only did that without any contact from him. Now were best friends and we talk everyday. What's this nonsense about him being your last love? Yes you are 23 and your lucky to have loved so young because alot of people have to wait forever. You will love again so don't worry about that. It hurts now but it won't forever. You are the only one that can erase this hurt feeling. If your looking for a goodbye from him don't wait on it. You will only be wasting your time and not his. good luck.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with you feeling as you do. It is quite normal. However, sending and using friends to communicate messages will turn him further away from you. It is akin to nagging. Sex is no issue, you don't need to enage in sex just yet and any man will wait. Simply go on any dates that come your way, and let nature take its course, which it always does.

The one thing you should always remember, and use it as a crutch and a rule of life, is that "No one is indespensible".
One day. from the most unexpected place you will find love again, and with more energy.

Until then, keep super busy and occupied your time with activites...

Answer 7

Let him sort himself out he may come back but my advice is, do not contact him again,or send messages through his friends.Think instead about your own life,do you go to work? are you a student?Do you get on well with your family?do you see your friends?do you have any hobbies?what is your ultimate goal in life?have you chosen your career?do you want to get married in the future?Do you want children?where do you want to live?He is not there for you it is very one sided you need someone to take an interest in everything you do and he simply does not.He may in time wonder what you are doing but how long do you want to wait?Build up your own life, set yourself a series of tasks and goals,meditate on your worries but do not let them overwhelm you.Try to achieve 1 goal a week or a fortnight do not waste your time you cannot solve his problems ,solve your own! Be happy within yourself.I feel you have over compensated because of his lack of action and decisiveness. Lindsay.

Answer 8

Girl Wake up. He is through with you. He got what he wanted now he is gone. Why would you call him and be hurt even more. Dont even say his name. And you well be better off. His friends are even laughing at you. At 23 your life is just now starting. Don't ware your hart on your sleve. Act as though You droped him and don't look back your a better person than that. Good luck I know you well find another one better than him. God bless.

Answer 9

This is going to be tough to answer. I have gone through the same emotional feelings of frustration and loneliness and longing. You want to so much to give of yourself to someone else, but they don't want you. The thing I am going to tell you, comes from experience. I read alot on relationship advice columns in the hopes I would learn some way of winning my lover back. Needless to say, I wasted my money. But the truth is you have to learn to love your ex, just the way he is, even if he is not with you. You have to learn how to love yourself and your ex even though he may literally hate you. Jesus taught that we are supposed to love those that hate us, and pray for those that despitefully use us. It takes more courage to love someone even when you can't show it to them, than it does to love someone just because you can't show it to them. It is more loving to give someone their personal sense of freedom than it is to hold on too tightly. Maybe some day you'll be able to show your love appropiately, maybe not. But the point is to release all of the negative feelings, and start loving (and I don't mean expressing your love) I mean loving even though you are currently unable to express your love. People say expressing our love is good, but sometimes it could do more harm than good. Express your love, by loving him inside, and please do allow yourself to cry some, but not too much. I know what it feel likes to totally drain yourself of all emotion and become a shell to the world, don't go that far down.

Answer 10

Well to me it seems like he only wanted one thing or maybe he found somebody else!!! I have been in similar a situation like this myself and YES IT DOES HURT!! But you live and you learn. Believe me you will get over him but it will take time. TIME HEALS ALL! I know it's easy to say but quit calling him and then when he sees that your not chasing him he will come back around BELIEVE ME itmight take awhile but he will. Then the funny part is when he tries to come back around your not even going to want to talk to him!!! BE STRONG THERE IS SOMBODY ELSE BETTER OUT THERE!! Your still young!!!