I am 30 next month and my husband (he is 30) and I have been married almost 2 years. We have started talking about having a baby but are so very happy enjoying our lives right now and are scared to change anything in our lives as things seem so great! How do you know when you are truly ready? We have a great relationship, financially secure and my husband's family are very supportive and can't wait for us to start a family (my parents over overseas). I keep seeing babies around and can't wait to have one of our own but at the same time I am terrified! Help!
2007-01-13 02:09:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was scared when i seen those two pink lines on that pregnancy test telling me i was pregnant when my husband and i had been trying for a year. It is normal to feel so scared. If you feel like you are ready to watch,feed,etc a baby 24/7 for the next 18 years then you are ready.
Childbirth/Pregnancy is a scary thing. Everyone i think gets scared, you will do fine. Good luck
2007-01-13 03:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably as ready as you'll ever be. Having a baby can be the most terrifying and the most beautiful thing. I have yet to meet a first time parent to be that wasn't terrified. You are definately more ready than most people who already have children.
2007-01-13 10:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by love2shop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you wont ever be truely ready for a baby... but from the sound of it you are about as ready as you can be- that is if you both want children. Really you need to sit down with your husband and the two of you should decide if you are ready.
Sounds like you've got it covered though.
2007-01-13 10:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by NewMommy!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, my parents had this problem as well. They decided if they can take care of a cat for a whole year (babying it, feeding it like 2-3 times a day, washing, ect) they'd be ready for a baby.
2007-01-13 10:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is ever completely ready to have a baby. There will always be something. You both will be scared and that is normal. You will just need to trust that what you are doing is right.
2007-01-13 10:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cute T Pie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't know. But children are a wonderful blessing. My kids made our wonderful marriage so much more wonderful. Don't be scared. Take paarenting classes if it will help with your anxiety. You sound ready to me. But you don't know until you hold your child in your arms for the first time. Then you'll know that your ready,
2007-01-13 10:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u got to talk to ur husband and know how he feels bout having a baby.life definetly changes after ur baby coz ur priorities will change.having a baby will also strengthen the bond between u both if u both r willing to have a baby n welcome that change in ur life.it is life moving in to another phase of ur life
2007-01-13 10:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by eeta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my fiance has two kids and let me tell you...I dont want anymore. Why you ask? Because for one, unless you are staying at home with this kid, you are looking at about $500 a month at least in day-care, not to mention all the stuff this kid needs. And then the kid grows up, and wants real expensive stuff. Then you have to always be putting money away for this little bugger's college fund. Expect to scrape about 35k together for that. And when this bugger gets old enough to not "be your little girl or boy," around the age of 13, this kid is going to start telling you what is up, and eventually will start having sex, etc. AND I HOPE TO GOD YOU ARE NOT ONE OF THOSE PARENTS THAT IS GOING TO DO WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THE CHILD HAPPY, BECAUSE YOU WILL MAKE A MONSTER. I had to put that in caps, because that is so common now. I see kids running the household all the time now, pushing the parents around. How pathetic.
2007-01-13 10:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
lol broody female , firstly you will know when your waters break.no seriously your at optimum dropping age as when as my little nest of vipers first had our first child she had to have a [cant think what its called but they stick a bloody great needle in your stomach to test for downs syndrome]she was 35. no probs thankfully,if you want one and are financially sound go for it.its bloody hard work mind but worth it.oh and don't forget to say goodbye to your social and sex life.only joking go for it.
2007-01-13 10:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anybody ever KNOWS they are ready to have children but it sounds like you alreay have a good support system. Go for it!
2007-01-13 10:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by ani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋