if she is cheating, how do i get her to fess up?

Answer 1

There IS most certainly a way to get her to confess. And there are also ways for you to know when she is lying.

Do not listen to such nonsense about "slipping up." Most women NEVER slip up on a lie, or something they are hiding.

If you are 100% sure that she is cheating, then you should definitely have a little talk with her. Remember to be civilized. No shouting, getting angry, or making sarcastic remarks (which is particularly powerful if you are usually a sarcastic person!). Once you've sat her down to talk over a nice cup of tea, there are several different approaches you can take:

1) Flat out, let her know that you know what she's been up to, and tell her she has the chance, right here and now, to come clean about. You will need to through a supporting fact or two (evidence) out there, just to show her that you really do know what you're talking about. This will help to keep her from trying to tell more lies to cover up for it. Most likely, she feels pretty guilty about cheating, and she'll take the oppourtunity to explain herself if you give it to her.

2) If you have a good body of "evidence," (such as, seeing her with the other guy somewhere, or finding and item of clothing, etc.) then simply start with that. After telling her you want to ask something, say something like "What is his name?" If she pretends not to know what you're talking about, say "Who is that man you were with at the theatre on Friday?" and then move to "Who does this pair of boxers belong to?" Remember to be patient, have a polite, sincere tone, and let her answer without interuptions. Give her a chance to explain herself.

3) This one might seem a little out there or silly, but it's proved very effective for me... Basically, just accuse her of everthing you can think of (which will definitely take a little acting on your part). Accuse her of more than just being unfaithful. For example, if my child was digging around in my purse, and stole my lipstick, then I might say "Jenny, you need to give Mommy back her lipstick, and her comb, and her check book, right this minute!" to which Jenny immediately replies that she only took the lipstick, and none of those other things. This technique gives the person the oppourtunity to feel genuinely innocent in someway. "Yes, maybe I cheated, but at least I didn't [you fill in the blank]." Of course, she's still gonna feel bad for what she HAS done, but it will make it easier for her to confess this.

Remember, when you talk to her, sit up straigh, sit facing her, and look her in the eye. Be patient, calm and civil. Don't try to beat it out of her! Maybe she ISN'T cheating... Keep that in mind. If she is lying to you right and left... just sit there nodding your head until she's done speaking, and then politely let her know you aren't convinced.

Good luck!!!

Answer 2

Let me just say that cheating and lying go hand in hand,along with that comes pure disrespect.If you think that your girlfriend is cheating on you then the best thing to do is sit down and talk to her tell her your reasons for the way you feel if her answers do not satisfy you then she is not the one for you.Without TRUST in a relationship you have no relationship.Trust and respect is everything in a relationship.If she has cheated on you once she will do it again and you don't deserve to be treated with that disrespect.You may never get her to confess so you really need to go with your gutt feeling,like I said if you distrust her you already have a serious problem and basically you really don't have a relationship.You probably need to move on there is the right one out there for you and she obviously is not it.Good luck to you.

Answer 3

First, you have to collect all the real evidences (not only the people's talks) about the cheating actions. Please remember almost information from others specially gossips are not true, so you need to prove them with factual evidences.

Second, ask her if she is cheating and also why she do that if it's true. In this stage she will try to change the direction of question and try to answer another thing.

Third, show her the factual evidences and see her reactions. Remember she will cry to cover her guiltiness.

Fourth, now it depends on you to decide.

Note, if you can not find the factual evidences (pictures/phone records, documents, etc.) Just think that she is not cheating on you.

Answer 4

Just leave her. Why even bother. She's not even worth it. Better yet, you should cheat on her. See how she makes you fess up, and use the same tactics on her.

Answer 5

If you think she is cheating, then she must have put that thought there in your mind. She could be just being faithful, but you haven't been paying much attention to her, so she decided to make you jealous. If this isn't the case, then, you have to find a good way to guilt her into telling you.

Answer 6

Well if you are asking this question there must be some doubt. Have you tried just coming out and seriously asking her? Also if you honestly think she is ..she will slip up..they always do. I wouldn't listen to this crap about..oh it just happened and it never will again because you do not deserve that. If she even kissed another man she knew what she was doing and she will have to deal with the circumstances. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

She'll never fess up until you actually catch her doing it.

Answer 8

Since I'm a girl I think you should ask her nicely or you should love her very much so she forgets all about the other weirdo. Thats what a girl wants love and atention.

Answer 9

You need to be a little more specific. What is she doing that would make you think she is cheating.

Answer 10

get her very horny. call the guy to talk with her and doulbe date or mybe shes not cheating