2007-01-13 01:39:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't answer the door and then she'll catch on
2007-01-13 01:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you probably feel like she is invading your privacy. But if you think of it in a positive way you can end up very happy. My oldest daughters grandparents had NOTHING to do with her after the divorce. How I wished for my daughter that her grandma would have wanted to come over.My daughter has grown up without that love that she expresses to me now, she is 28 , that she has had emotional problems because of this. I would thank her when she comes over tell her , "oh I'm so glad you want to spend time with the baby, I have a lot of work to do, so while you are spending time with her I will get these things done that i need to do. She as a mother is thinking that she is doing you a favor and she is. You will see this later when the new wears off. Go and take a shower get some work done and relax knowing that your baby is in the best of hands next to yours. Count your blessings and be grateful. You will be happier in the end and she and you will have a much better relationship than you do.LUCKY YOU! I wish i had that.
2007-01-13 09:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely and respectfully ask her to set a schedule with you. Tell her that you love that she comes over to see the baby, and in fact, it's a great help for you when she does this, and that maybe she would be willing to set up a schedule, so that you could actually get some work done. Say that the problem with her just dropping in is that it's disruptive when you try to get some work done. She might actually be grateful that you "need" her help.
2007-01-13 10:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she comes over, you have a free babysitter, say you have to work for awhile
then go do whatever you like for a hour, if she is still there after that, take another hour, etc.
visit a little to encourage her to visit the next day too
use the quality time to get with your husband maybe
2007-01-13 09:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you appreciate that she wants to see the baby but explain that you also need time to work, your baby needs to sleep etc. suggest a time that is sutiable for you both and ask her to call before turning up on your doorstep. hopefully that should help. be straight with her before you end up getting frustrated with the situation. good luck. and dont work too hard, you need rest too!
2007-01-13 09:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by katyllou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her dont come over between so and so hours. but also rember that is her grandchild and she is only being a nanna to it and maybe help to. just try and put up with it i know it is hard but give it time.
2007-01-13 09:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband to speak to her , nicely - it usually works.
good luck
2007-01-13 09:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋