I moved to Northern Cal. for a job (pays good) and my wife said I'll move down in March. March turned into April, April to May I'm affraid she's not going to move....what do I do?
Sorry that's kind of two questions.
2007-01-13 01:09:08 · 15 answers · asked by Loren H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe it's time you go and help her pack. ;o) This should solve everything. I mean if she has a change of heart you will find this out when you go there right? ;o) good luck to you.
2007-01-13 01:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably afraid to leave her family behind. If she has never lived away from her parents or siblings than she would be worried about never seeing them again. Change is hard for some people. You were motivated to move by the lure of a new job...whats her motivation? Just plain old "you".
Send her a picture of that nice little restaurant that you just discovered and would love to take her to. Send a picture of you at the museum and library with the beautiful wood work moldings and marble floors and the scenic view of the city that took your breath away! Send her a bouquet of flowers made with the local wild flowers .... you get the picture...
She needs to be lured as you were. Send her the local newspaper, complete with want ads. Tell her you love her and miss her. Blah blah blah, I could go on but I wont.
Tell to try it for a few months and if she doesn't like it you'll both move back home. If you both cant agree than she will have to choose her old home over you and you will have to choose your new job over her....I hope you two will agree on one place and stay together.
2007-01-13 09:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Adrienne C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to sit down an have a discussion about the situation. If she is constantly moving her move date back maybe there is something there the she is not ready to let go of. Maybe she is nervous about moving with the thought that the job maybe fall through or something of that nature.
2007-01-13 09:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by jonesty1284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have to ask her directly if she plans on moving or not. If she doesnt want to move, then you have to ask her and yourself whats going on and can you move back? How come you moved in the first place? There are lots of well paying jobs all over...including where your wife is.
2007-01-13 10:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may be having doubts. This is a hard question, I think there could be a few different reasons. Mybe she has changed her mind and doesn't know how to tell you, or maybe she is really scared to make that final step. Or maybe she has found someone else. You need to calmly ask her has she changed her mind , if so you would like to know.
2007-01-13 09:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call that "dragging her feet". Now why she's doing it can be anything from fear of a new place, to having found another man while you were there. I don't know what it is, but if it were me, I would talk to her and ask her why she is dragging her feet. She'll tell you....but you might NOT want to hear her answer. Good Luck!!
2007-01-13 09:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where is she moving from? Maybe she is nervous about moving to new surroundings. Does she visit you? Can you find a good job where she is.
2007-01-13 09:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by nj2pa2nc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your wife no longer wants to be your wife. Ask her straight up. Its best to know now then be hurt that much more later
2007-01-13 10:08:38 · answer #8 · answered by slynswope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has second thougths of moving ,its normal especially if youve lived in that place for quite a while,you need to assure her that things will be a lot better once your in a new place,just give her some assurance
2007-01-13 09:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she likes living where she at, and doesn't miss you at all.Better go visit her and see what she is doing, she may have a extra bed warmer near her
2007-01-13 09:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by sampls123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋