married for 10 and together for 15. i feel the same or better about us. she said shes felt like this for over a year, i must be blind or stupid! what do you think?
2007-01-13 00:57:35 · 26 answers · asked by houligan73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are blind AND Stupid
just get a damn lawyer, get yourself a life and move on.
go suck off the neighbor's donkey.
2007-01-13 01:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by glitter l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your wife to the Pool and when you get there tell her to jump in the deep end. When you see her jump in, that tells you that she has made up her mind that she is going to jump in.
Is it because you told her too?
What if you hadn't have said anything. Would she jump in the shallow side or the deep side would remain a mystery right now.
What isn't a mystery that no matter how old she is or how long she has been married...when she makes up her mind to do something no matter what it is be it good or bad mind you...she will do it.
It might not be what you want or might be what you have so long dreaded would happen.
Be prepared for the unexpected, but remember this, she is a human being and has feelings and surely she loves the best of you and will hate the worst of you.
No matter what she does, as long as you always show her your best side as an understanding male, you will survive the blade that will cut your heart if she does what you would not want her to do.
It's her life...love her and always love her no matter what she does so long as she knows you support her 100%.\
We only live once. Don't be mad, just understand it. If she is responsible...she will not do anything to hurt the one she loves which is you. If she is irresposnsible than I would be very concerned.
2007-01-13 01:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that she wanted to be sure that the feeling is for real or was not just a passing phase. Now that she has said it, the two of you must discuss how best to end the current phase of "your love" for each other. You should also remember that there are more than one kind of love. So, you might be going to the other kind from where you had been the last 15 yrs.
2007-01-13 01:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she just feels boring with regular family life. Almost husbands don't realize that their family life is similar day by day. That because almost husbands' life is in the workplaces. The wife in his house becomes boring with regular situation and sometimes she will feel in jailed in house. If the husband doesn't care, lack of awareness and blame her of her feelings that will become disaster for their family life. The wife will have depression or may be the marriage will be broken even though they still love each other. That will be the most painful divorced ever.
So, please take her for relaxing or recreation with going to somewhere just only for two of you. Give her some surprises activities once a week or more, for example change position when you have sex with her, bring some flowers when you arrive home, give more time with her, etc. I hope it will help your problem.
2007-01-13 01:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are way too many things to consider with this question. Perhaps your wife is reevaluating her own place in the relationship, not neccasarilly yours. Maybe she is changing as a mother or a wife because of her place in life. Do you have children together? Parenthood can preoccupy things for many years, maybe she needs to get back in touch with her feelings for you and figure out where shes at and who she is when she is with you. Maybe she is confused about your feelings for her or about your intentions as a husband? MAybe times have passed, things have been ignored and pushed aside and now they are festering and she is finally beginning to deal with them. I think counseling would be good for the both of you so you can get back on the same page, or to at least understand how you each feel about the relationship. If she hasnt been honest with you , it would be good to find out sooner than later and if this is her way of being open with you, let her spill her thoughts. good luck with things!
2007-01-13 02:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she wants. Perhaps what she is looking as a decling in 'love', is actually just a craving to do and try something new, something exciting. Sometimes, we unconsciously get so bored doing the same thing over the years, we want to run away from the life we know altogether. Perhaps, some adventurous vacations, some active changes in routines, and perhaps a healthier you, is what she wants. May be she just craves that you should try to win her heart again. Why not? That should add more excitement to your life too.
2007-01-13 01:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people that have been together as long as you have grow and change, often in different directions. Find out what about the relationship she feels needs work on. If she say's shes not in love with you anymore let her go. You cant make someone love you and I highly doubt if her love for you is gone it will return. I wish you the best
2007-01-13 01:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by **Damn its cold up here** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 7 years and I can relate to what your wife is saying. She still loves you, but the relationship kind of got stale. Just like a car, women need to be pampered and given special care or just like a car, we may not "run" the same. My husband takes me and all I do for granted. I will always be faithful but I will admit I love when another man flirts with me. It makes me feel "lit up again." Women need attention. Your wife is simply telling you she needs T.L.C., just as she gives you, on a consistent basis.
2007-01-13 01:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could mean, she loves you, but she's not in love with you. marriage tends to get boring after so long, I think we all take it for granted and get into a rut, Keep it exciting and you'll be fine.Like one rose for no reason, its much better than 2 dozen for an anniversary.Women unlike men need the romance kept alive, men I think need the security more.They work hard to support the family and think that should be enough.
2007-01-13 01:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is on a downhill run. You are not blind or stupid just an individual that perceives things differently. Have a good talk my bet is she has something on her mind and it is not good. Prepare yourself
2007-01-13 01:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just got to comfortable in the relationship and now it's time to bring back some of that excitement that brought you both together. Sometimes as time goes by we just forget to do some of the things we used to do that made our spouse happy. Maybe try to think back of some of those things and do them. Then see what happens. good luck to you. ;o)
2007-01-13 01:06:01 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋