my sis is allways pushing our friendship to the point of no return. when i confront her on it. she stops talking to me. days & somtimes months will go by an we won't be talking what makes it worse there are our kids involed they want to see each other when we do start talking again she act as though nothing has happened are that i'm the bad guy in it all the only reason i havn't cut her out yet is out of 6 siblings she is the only one i help & talk to any more both of are parents are dead. so what should i do ? keep taking it or just finally let go?
2007-01-13 00:53:40 · 13 answers · asked by ladykitcha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i should have clairfied that i'm on good terms w/ other sibs,she just happens to be my fav. i miss her but other family & friends say that are relationship in the past 4 yrs has become volitile, and i should be the one to break it off.
2007-01-14 20:04:49 · update #1
When you confront her, make sure it's comfortable for the both of you or she may block you out again. Sit her down, and ask her about the friendship.
Aside from that, she's your sister. Alot of people's sisters are annoying, but she's family. Try your best, I believe in you!
2007-01-13 00:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by mchl_atkinson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need each other. Sisters are a special relationship. You are both old enough to go about your own lives, but knowing that you are there for each other should mean alot. Tell her that there are certain topics that you two can't agree on and those things shouldn't be discussed. Tell her you don't want to lose her because you both have already lost so much. The arguing is not only hurting the two of you, it is also hurting your kids. Try to talk things out . It's not very mature to hold grudges for weeks and months at a time. Just respect each other as individuals even if you don't agree with what she may be doing. Tell her, "I don't agree with you, but I love you, therefore, I will support you." Good luck. I don't know what I'd do without the love of my sisters.
2007-01-13 09:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up! You have pushed every one of your 6 siblings away and now you want to push this one away to. The only reason you deal with her is because she needs you on some level or so you think. So, no one calls you unless they need something and the other sibs are pretty much doing OK, right? This is the only sib that allows you to control them am I right? When she asserts herself, you get offended, after all you are the only one who helps her out, right? You then tell her how much you don't need her and how much she needs you, and she has no right to assert herself or disagree with you in any way, correct?
Every family has one just like you! Your sister is probably not the problem... think about it.
2007-01-13 09:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Adrienne C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds very much like my mother and her sister. They are always fighting and then my aunt stops talking to her for months even years. When they do start talking she rings Us (in Ireland) from america up to six times a day talking crap al the time. I dont talk to my aunt any more and I never want to again. In our house when we see her number coming up on the caller ID my Mum is the only one out of 6 of us that will answer!
I think nobody should be treated like that by anyone esp. your sister. I would say that you should back away and live your life without worry. If you dont the kids involved could become like my brother and sisters and NEVER want to talk to you or her again.
Its not a nice thing to say but there is a time when you just cant go on.
Its time to break free! You can do it
Good luck
2007-01-13 09:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by reecetoby 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Somewhere you are pushing her buttons the wrong way. Think about what kind of things you are saying to her or listen to what she is saying to you. This sounds like a failer to communicate properly. Why is she the only one out of 5 others? May need to take a long look at where the blame might be.
2007-01-13 09:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to her, and when she asks u what is wrong you tell her that you are tired of pretending like everything is OK. So now YOU are not talking to HER. She will feel like you did all of this time. If she does not come around stop every contact with her, but be careful that kids do not find out. She will soon understand that she is wrong and it'll be all right. You have a good conversation with her, and settle your differences.
2007-01-13 09:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Joka B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her in no uncertain terms to stop acting like a turd.
If she chooses to continue this behavior, ignore it and her.
Don't cut her out of your life as you will seriously regret it later on in life, when it may be too late.
It is totally normal for families to have rows once in a while, but don't write her off.
Remember, we choose our friends but unfortunately not our family
PS: On the things you really differ on, agree to disagree
2007-01-13 09:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by Big Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not meanig to sound like a B-t-ch but you said out of 6 she is the only one you talk to. So that brings me to ask you have you looked inside your self? Maybe SOME of the problem could be within.
2007-01-13 09:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down talk with your sister during one of her good spells and let her know how you feel. Family is a hard to let go and forget. Really try to work it out.
2007-01-13 09:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by caribbeanmeme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being mean, but if she is the only one you talk to, out of 6 siblings, the problem might not be her, it might be you. You need to do a little self-checkup. Are all those people bad? Highly unlikely! Be honest with yourself, and analyze why you have no relationship with but one sister, and it's on shaky ground. Good Luck!!
2007-01-13 09:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋