im hurting bad. were still married, shes been having a affair for 2 years probally//??? she is living with him now and my daughter. I DONT EVEN KNOW HER ANY MORE!! HE KNOWS HER MORE THEN ME!!! shes only 8 months old. can i put a restraining order on him to get my child for awhile???? minnesota
2007-01-12 23:57:31 · 15 answers · asked by vegas133 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sure that would be an option that would immediatly help your situation, unfortuneatly, it probably won't happen. What you need to do is file for an emergency hearing, have the police do welfare check(status) on your child. Judges normally will look down on this behavior that your wife (whore) is displaying. She is not entitled to that child more than you. You have just as much right to her as she does. I know the pain your going through, but try and be strong, because it is the long haul that matters. You are missing precious time with your baby, but you will get compensated by having more time, and hopefully custody. If this home wrecker threatins you in any way, get a restraining order, and because you are the childs father, you will be able to add her as one of the protected parties. Be careful you wife (whore) does not turn it around on you. She could get one against you for phone harrassment. Don't get me wrong, you have every right to call, you have a reason to, its just women can be evil, and she could make it even more difficult for you. Let her be the one who digs herself into a deep hole. You baby will need your emotional maturity. I would talk to the police. Have them write up reports on this. Have them check the child. Then you will have documentation of how irresponsible your wife (whore) is being.
2007-01-13 01:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a restraining order probably wouldnt help you much but you do have custodial rights as the father and you need to enforce them. Call the police and your local child services department and they will be able to give you some advice. Sounds like you are going to need to get a lawyer as well. Good luck and remember no matter how mad you are at your wife you need to do what is best for your daughter, and always think of her best interests first. This usually means having both parents involved in her life (depending on circumstances of course).
2007-01-13 00:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sled Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope you can not put a restraining order on the man your wife lives with on behalf of the child. Only the parent that has physical custody of the child can do that {been there}. What you need to do is get off your duff and go to the courts to seek visitation as well as set up child support arrangements, if your not already paying. Without the court order she really doesn't have to let you see the baby {though she should, I cant stand women that play games and use children as weapons my step daughters mother does this they live in St.Paul} Anyhow my stepdaughters mom lives with a man who has hit her with a belt, called her fat, and sent her to bed without dinner when we tried to file a restraining order on the man the police department told us we could not file on behalf of the child since we do not have physical custody of the child and because the man resides with them. Furthermore if you file for divorce in order to get custoday of the child you have to prove the mother unfit in the eyes of the court, and an affair and not letting you see the baby doesnt mean she is unfit
2007-01-13 00:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by **Damn its cold up here** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you my friend is get a good lawyer. If you cant afford one, in every state they have lawyers that answer questions for free usually you can call your local courthouse and ask for the legal library and hours when one will be available. Putting a RTO on him really wont do you much good unless you do that and call Child Protective Services saying your daughter is in danger, but if you do that it may bite you in the butt. Get a good lawyer that specializes in Family Law and they can give you your different options whether it is filing for divorce and legal custody or joint custody of your child. Good luck to you.
2007-01-13 00:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by dcforensics51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See an attorney and file for divorce and full custody of the child. She's living an immoral home life with the boyfriend living with her therefore the judge may grant you full custody.
You'll have to have a job, and proof someone responsible will care for the child while you are at work. Get busy while she's living her life the way she is, good luck.
2007-01-13 00:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont put all the blame on him. this was your wifes choice as well. A restraining order against him wont help you much. You need to seek legal help to get visitation rights to your daughter. Because she left doesnt mean that you cant see your daughter. As her father You have that right and now go and fight for it.
2007-01-13 00:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call an attorney tomorrow morning to see what you can legally do. Most attorneys will offer a free consultation and this may be enough information obtained to convince your wife to let you see your daughter.
Do you know where they live? In my divorce case, I was required to give my husband my new mailing address within 5 days of moving or it would be considered kidnapping.
Do contact your attorney. And file for a divorce!
2007-01-13 00:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see an attorney. Keep in mind that you have as much right to your child as your wife. If your daughter goes to daycare, you can pick her up from there.
When you get divorced, I suggest you add a clause that men can't be around your daughter unless they are married to your ex. That is done often in our area.
2007-01-13 00:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a attorney can give you all the answers you need to know. I mean she can't just keep your daughter away from you like that. You'll need and I'm sure want to get a divorce from her anyways. Who knows you might even be able to get custody of your daughter depending on all the circumstances I mean. good luck to you. ;o)
2007-01-13 01:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first I am sorry to hear about your situation...you are still married so you have the legal right to get he authorities involved. I'm not sure the exact steps but I do know that if you are still married and so you have joint custody, you have every right to ge the police inlvoved, besides you are thier father not that other guy. hope this helps, good luck and God Bless
2007-01-13 00:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋