how do you know if you're fallen out of love?

Answer 1

when you dont want to see them as often. your not waiting for calls your heart doesnt miss a beat when you see them, no more butterflies in your stomach, you just know when that time comes.

Answer 2

In the broadest sense, unconditional love is mostly understanding and acceptance: you see the person for who they are, and you accept them flaws and all. Now, that's not saying relationships don't take work: they do, and it's one of the toughest jobs you can have today when the divorce rate in North America is above 50% (and closer to 70% for second marriages).

I think, therefore, a better question is why do marriages often fail when there aren't even significant problems like cheating (betrayal), drug abuse (dependency issues), and verbal and physical abuse (disrespect). What sometimes happens is as simple as the relationship being based on early infatuation, and sometimes it whithers because of neglect.

I've been told that for a marriage to be a truly great marriage, both partners have to continue to grow (giving each other some room to do this) to maintain each others' interest in one another, that they have to be committed to respecting one another, that it's important to let those affectionate feelings out and demonstrate them every once in a while (without smothering the other, of course) and for both partners to be confident in themselves and the soundness of the relationship.


That's what I've been told anyway. I'd really welcome the opportunity to test all that out, but first I need to meet someone who interests me (and vice-versa), etc, etc.

If you think you are "falling out of love", it could be that one or both of you aren't doing things to keep it going: do you both take some time for good grooming, do you date each other from time to time, do you cultivate your individual interests and share them from time to time with each other and encourage each other when one of you takes an interest in a new subject, etc? Do you practice respect for one another (you have to work at showing it, ya know)? When was the last time you held each other and looked in each others' eyes for just 10 seconds before you left for work in the morning?

Usually, it's a lot of little things that add up to more negatives than positives, and that's why people don't understand what happened.

Answer 3

Think of the things that made you fall in love with that person. Evaluate how those things stack up now. For example, I miss my husband even while I'm just at work. I can't imagine that going away... but if it did, maybe it's a sign...? Look for little things like that.

Answer 4

If your relationship has been over couple years then you've fallen out of love with him or her. Good luck with your next one.

Answer 5

There's a lot of little signs. There was a story on the my yahoo page yesterday. Things like you start to pick fights. Their little quirks are now annoying. You might "forget" to call them. Things like that. Look at these links they can tell you better.

Answer 6

The feelings you once had for that person, will no longer be there. You exist from day to day, you stop speaking to each other, your intimacy almost goes to non-existent. In other words, the thrill is gone. Tell your other half how you feel (gently, but honestly).

Answer 7

A hollow, aching emptiness overtakes your soul, and your mind and body resonate with crashing 'what ifs', 'if onlys', and 'so it is' mumblings.

Then you wake up, on a clear blue day, or look out on the grey dawn of constant rain, and say, 'to Hell with him/her/it, I'm moving on.'

Answer 8

When the sound of the person's voice makes you cringe. When they touch you it makes your skin crawl, when you dread spending one minute of your time with them. Its pretty much a wrap.

Answer 9

If you're a bloke, it usually goes down and falls out all by itself....lmfao

Answer 10

when u cant wait till the day is over so u can see him again or u smile when u see him