i keep getting mad and want to smash things up?

Question

its driving me and my family apart and i want this to stop!

i dont feel depressed but when i dont get my own way i get so angry and start losing it and going crazy!!!

this happen about 3-5 times a week!

i want to stop, please what should i do (apart from seeing a doctor)

is there anything i can take or do to chill myself!

Thanks

Answer 1

Moderate your expectations. Don't expect to get "your own way" and you won't feel angry when you don't.

Get more exercise. Vigourous and strenouous exercise will sublimate frustrations and give you a better sense of perspective.

Examine your diet. Coffee / caffiene often makes people crabby and irritable. Also try laying off the wheat products too. Take a good multi-vitamin and multi-mineral supplement for a few weeks.

Seek counselling. Talking through your problems can help identify the root cause of your frustrations and make you better able to recognise them when they try to hijack you and better able to avoid them in the first place.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You say you don't feel depressed... depression doesn't always mean feeling 'down in the dumps', it can take many forms...
Feelings of persecution, feelings of unexplained rage or anger, frustration at the little things in life that go wrong...the list is pretty exhaustive and I am no expert, just somebody who has experienced similar feelings.
What you have to consider is what has changed?

From the sound of things this is a recent change in your life (I may be wrong here), I am not going to get into the whole 'counselling' bit but I think you need to take a backwards step for a moment and look at your life and what it is that is causing you to behave like this.
It is only a short step from smashing things up to hurting people, and from the sound of things your family is right in the firing line - not a good situation for any of you to be in.

Over the years I have had many problems (mostly financial) that have pushed my patience and my temper to the limit, I have broken things through anger - and then had to pay to replace them (either way, I lose!).
What can you take to chill yourself? Don't even go there my friend, if you do then you risk becoming an addict to whatever it is that keeps your anger under control, you become a slave to a bottle or a drug, its a downhill road, I know, it took me 5 years to walk back up it!
20 years later I am back on an even keel but it was hard work.
You seem reluctant to see a Doctor, why?
It could be the best thing you ever do, at least if he/she does give you a course of medication it will only be for a short time until your problems are under control.
I know that the word 'counselling' is over used and has some negative conotations but you do need to talk to somebody about this, somebody who can see you on a regular basis and help you identify the cause, the trigger and how to control it.

Please do this sooner rather than later, once you run out of things to smash then people start getting hurt (physically, emotionally they will already be scarred by your actions), for those you love, and who love you, that escelation will be a complete betrayal of trust - you will never get that back if things go that far, that will be your greatest loss - don't go there...

I hope things improve for you, I really do.

Answer 3

How old are you? Well your old enough to post a question which means your old enough to know better than that. At what age do you stop throughing temper tantrums? Maybe try taking an anger management class they do offer them you just have to find out how and where there offered in your city. Another suggestion buy a punching bag, like the boxers use and use it to bang on when your angry, if you can't buy one make or create one, wrap up a couple of pillows with tape and just punch away, or take off running like a long hard jog, and just keep running till you're too tired to be angry, or exercise that madness off, soon as you get angry just take off jogging, at least try some of these, its better than smashing that someone has paid for, or have to pay for especially if your smashing up things you have spent your money on, that would be so totally lame, maybe next time you go to smash something that cost somebody some money, consider the cost.

Answer 4

By the sound of it you have a control problem. Next time this happens remove yourself from the situation an sit somewhere an think about how you feel and what thoughts are going through your head, it might take a while but eventually you may find something that is hurting you like an unresolved issue. Dont bottle your feelings up but dont take them out on others either, just take a deep breath and remove yourself till you calm down. I would recommend you do see someone tho, they do really help.

Answer 5

Hiya

Sorry to hear you are having a rough time... but theres always light at the end of the tunnel.

As you were say that you are having outbursts 3-5 times a week.... this im sure is very disturbing to the people around you and let you alone it is very disturbing to YOU.
This behaviour is showing that you do not have control over your emotions...

Id like to suggest that maybe you try Mantra meditation....
It is really effective... Iv seen it help many people of various circumstances.
"Hare Krishna Hare Krishna
Krishna Krishna Hare Hare
Hare Rama Hare Rama
Rama Rama Hare Hare"
This a very simple mantra, but it is the ultimate cure.
...You feel yourself getting agitated by a certain situation... take yourself out of the situation , try calm yourself... try this mantra, calmly say this32 syllable (16 word) mantra.
I guarantee that if you believe that this mantra will help, it will work wonders. Have Faith!!!

Don't give up! :-)
Best wishes
x

Answer 6

I think anger management may be a course of action you could consider. in the firswt instance you may find your doctor is supportive. Also your age is a determinate factor as well, in determining where your support will best be. All behaviour has it's root causes, and i'm not saying it's a straightforward process, however when you identify what's making you angry/mad, then you have a starting point from which to address your behaviour. Good luck

Answer 7

this is a habit you've gotten yourself into and it's one that you've realised you need to change.

I would advise you to plan your behaviour for when you get angry and not just react.

So for instance next time you feel these angry emotions and your brain is about to switch off and you're gonna smash things up- remember what you planned to do in exactly that situation.

Walk away and calm down for example. Then you will start to build your self-control.

It doesn't matter what you replace your old habit with as long as you develop a more constructive one. It could just be putting your hands in your pocket and counting.

You need to replace and old habit with a new one. This will take time to do BUT can be done.

Good Luck

Answer 8

You need to participate in some anger management classes. Theses classes are designed to find the root cause(s) that are causing you to have these outbursts and teaches you techniques on how to control your temper. I actually attended a four classes as part of research for a term paper I was writing. I was very impressed and although I only attended four sessions, there what a lot of information given for the four classes and I would recommend it to anyone. It certainly gave me pointers that I have used when the need arouse and I was able to work it out using techniques I was taught. It made a significant impact
impact on how I try to deal with anger.

Answer 9

There is nothing you can take that will make you to stop behaving this way - if you trying taking anything will only increase your problem.
First try to recognise the right and opinion of other people,secondly you might be suffering from stress.
Do not ignore the experience of trained doctors they really help.You said you don't want to see a doctor,which shows how stubborn you r.

Answer 10

ask your gp for your local anger management group.. you could always try self help like listing reason why you feel like this and try to change them.i was advised to take evening primrose oil with vitamin b6.. this helped with my stress levels but it takes a good week or two to kick in... also we all feel angry at times and its all part of life having to accept that we cant always get what we want