im a very short tempered person n dont know hoe to respect others.how to overcome this?

Answer 1

With dudes this is fairly common. If you are young take up smoking weed. Under no circumstances try uppers like Coke and speed. They will be very destructive for you. Weed on the other hand will mellow you out.

Get laid. Simple fact is that not getting laid leaves people short on tempers. in a classic relationship spiral the sex ends or becomes infrequent and that's when the real fireworks start. For some reason masterbation is not the same. Doesn't help with the temper.

Get more sleep or try to work out schedule that allows you to sleep at the right time. If your a night person 8 hours at night is nearly worthless where as 4 hours in the day is like 8 hours of night sleep and vice versa. Try finding time for a 2 or 3 hour nap in the day if your getting all your sleep at night and see if that helps. Make a time when you do this consistantly and almost every day. If your a day person working a night shift do the opposite. Try to find time for a nap at night sometime.

Seek out calmer people. There are people who are natural agitators. Where they go they stir everybody up. If you are in dailly contact with such a person that combined with your already edgy state equals a day long temper outburst.

Force yourself to stop, take time to find the best attributes in people around you. Even people you margionally dislike. Every person in the world has good things about them. Things they can teach the wisest. Find those things in a few people you are around all the time. Once you gain a level of empathy you'll naturally feel guilty about being unfairly cross with somebody. What's happening now is you are having little or no empathy. They are people in the generic sense. They might be "friends" but they are not FRIENDS. That doesn't mean you'll never be angry at them again. Just means the outbursts will be less frequent and shorter in duration and more likely to be about legit causes. Take time and listen. Force yourself to listen and explore what people are saying. At least friends.

The other cycle your probably in is that X problem bugs you. Your reaction is to get upset, then you spin it around again and you get more upset the 2nd go around and the third and fourth until you are furious over something minor. Something happens get mad then get over it. Doesn't mean you have to forgive and forget. Just stick with your first feel. Don't let it build up till everything makes you angry.

Another cause of anger is if you are somebody who takes responsibility especially strongly. This creates huge stress as you worry about meeting those responsibilities and causes you to be unduely harsh on yourself and others if they fail even small responsibilities. You can actually feel betrayed when somebody lets you down. Then you start rationalizing hostile intentions into something that was really minor. Somebody is late or misses a meeting or breaks a small promise. Most of the time when somebody says it slipped their mind thats what happened. While it might have been important to you, did you convey how important it was too them? Do they handle even important things for themselves well? Lots of people are very casual and go through life more improvising than planning. This tends to drive planner types nuts. If your a planner type you'll be unduely aggavated by casual people. Solution is to seek out people more like minded. Their temper outbursts will be easier to take than the frustration you'll feel with casual people. And no they are not doing it to anger you. It's just how they are.

Answer 2

No one is going to give you any severe punishment for your short-temperament. Thats why you are keeping that treasure with you forever. And only the timid personality would be telling others " I am very short termpered" to conceal his inner phobias. One who is unable to control his own anger can never control others either! His anger and shouting would not be considered seriously by others too!
Whatever it is, if your short temper and dis-respect to others, are going to give you any profits or rewards, why do you keep worrying about it?
AND IF NOT, YOU WILL NEVER ASK ANY QUESTIONS, BUT WILL STOP ALL THESE THINGS IN NO TIME!
This is, Now or Never affair!
You can not keep asking for external help from others or reading the kind of "How to control your anger" books, and taking down notes to postpone things for the next life!!

Answer 3

very simple, make a friend hu too is short tempered cos for us (humans) the best way to realise, learn and improve is wen they feel the same. So wen ur such friend will insult u every now and den , it will help u to feel as to how others feel wen u do the same, and automatically you will improve drastically provided u have self respect buddy

Answer 4

I was like that, Its hard but u can overcome this.. Meditation is the key, Tell yourself each night and day that you wont lose your temper today no matter what happens.. You know its usually pride that makes us lose control most of the time..We take offence easily and it does'nt have to be like that. You can grow stronger with time..

Answer 5

Yup, I been there, and I've the broken nose and broken knuckles [boxers fractures] to prove it. Well, just imagine folks are wonderful and often think of what's nice about them. Easy..... I promise, things will be wonderful after that. And submit to your wife or husband. Just go, 'sure honey', and do what ever they say. It'll be nice, I promise.

Answer 6

look here.......i know people can provoke us to make us short tempered......i too am like that.......but am improving now......so don worry......i found that i was loosing people when i had been short tempered......but when i had controlled myself for just one week.......i had got most of my relations in place......just think a moment before u get short tempered.......just don open your mouth to let your words out.......take a paper.....write them..... or just move away and stay alone.......but remember.... all these you do for your goodness.....to make you not appear bad.....if you practice this.....one day......u ll even stop thinking of getting short tempered.......but it takes time.......i m experiencing it now......

All the best!!!!!

Answer 7

This is not an easy answer...By being more at "peace" with yourself. ( Self-Acceptance; Self-Patients; Self-Tolerance)
Look at it this way.
When we are already at peace...it takes a lot longer for someone to piss us off. If we are already caring "tenseness" around...it only takes a second, to get mad.
*We kinda treat people the same way, we treat ourselves.

Answer 8

If follow this rule you will be fine:" Do into people as you want them to do into you" It's the Golden Rule, and also my rule
Do you want respect? respect others.
Do you want love? Love other people.
You can overcome this.

Answer 9

Exercise regularly, breathe deep when angry. Just do it for a week and see if it works.

Answer 10

Smoke a little pot once in a while! For real!