through out the year i would travel to see her of course but, i see as being pointless to be in this state if i cant see when i want-it has bee two weeks-the reason is because my wife mother do not allow me to come to there house to visit my daughter-and my wife doesn't make any effort to come to my mother house to see me.so i was thinking-if i could leave for a short period of time and go do for me so i can be established and then once i am established i could divorce my wife and hopefully get joint custody and i can have my daughter every summer in new york and she will get to see me every time i visit the south to see her-my daughter is 8 months.i just feel like i am wasting time-i will never just vanish from my child life, i just need to build a foundation for me so i can provide the way i need to and while doing that i will be happy.
the bottom line me and my wife won't work-why i know this is because i spent two years trying and i am not trying no more i am done-i want out.
2007-01-12 22:29:52 · 13 answers · asked by prosper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Under the circumstances you have put down, I think you have worked it out the best way possible. You sound as though you know what you are doing. It will be O.K,as long as your families know what you intend to do. Good luck.
2007-01-12 22:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by dogwhitenowra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you’re ready to give up after two weeks? Frankly, that says a lot about you. Do you have court ordered visitation? If not, you need it. You can get it even if you’re not yet divorced.
With that said, there is nothing wrong with someone moving somewhere else to pursue a better life. But be aware, that those ‘occasional’ visits with daughter will make it difficult to establish a real bond. So you have to ask yourself, what’s most important?
2007-01-13 07:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you and your wife are separated, you can get visitation rights now,,,, to see your child,,, just go to court and file separation papers,,,,,, its in the childs best interest that you have contact with her,,,,,, i personally dont suggest waiting a year, especially at her young age,,,,, as after a year you will be like a stranger to her,,,,,,,, so call the courthouse and ask what you need to do ,
if nothing else, pick up your daughter and take her out for the day, or atleast a few hours ,,,, she and you really dont have to be at anyones house, or if you want to bring her to your mothers house, its your obligation to go get her,, not your wifes to bring her over,,,,,,
ps: if you are still married, you have joint custody now, as its assumed both parents share custody,,,a separation agreement is will help work out the details until an official divorce
2007-01-13 06:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by dlin333 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went through a lot of this with my ex. first at 8months, you need to be there as much as can,I had a very strong bond with my daughter when she was 14mo. when my ex forced my out of the house. I have called her at least once a week, and been back there as much as i can, but it hurts more then you can understand. Also check with a lawyer, and find out the laws where your at before you do anything, women can and will screw you and your daughter up, even when there the one that did something wrong.
2007-01-13 06:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Warning if you go a full year without contact with your child your wife could petition the court to terminate your parental rights on the grounds of abandonment. if you feel that leaving is the best way to establish yourself in order to be a better father to your child then i say go for it but i wouldn't stay gone for a whole year.
even if you just take a weekend here and there to return and visit your child be sure to stay in contact with her
2007-01-13 06:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by dreamer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is there any logic in denying yourself the right to visit your child?
If it was me, I wouldn;t want to deny seeing my child to enhance the situation.
It is best to work the situation out and continue to do your best to see your child and if under the circumstances it gets hard...there's mail, there's UPS, there's lots of things you can do that show you care and it means alot.
2007-01-13 07:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a man and stick it out. you have as much right to see your daughter as your wife. your wife's mother should keep out of it you child is the most precious thing in life fight for her
2007-01-13 06:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should have had a foundation before you had kids bro. Good luck with that. I feel sorry for your daughter.
2007-01-13 06:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Gasman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you tried this radical approach?...mend the relationship and get some couseling and dont' walk out on your commitment you made. I know this is far out and really cutting edge but you should give it a try.
2007-01-13 06:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is OK to build your life, you'll be always the father of your child.
2007-01-13 06:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋