My husband is aways comparing me to single women, he tells me how much more attractive they are and so much nicer than me in every way,i have three children and hardly have a moment to myself, its so hard to look after myself the way i used to, but nevertheless it really hurts my feelings.
2007-01-12 21:47:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that is horrible.Most single woman can indulge in themselves but us mothers are the last in line and usually by the time we have free who feels like fixing up.Your husband should have the kids for a few days and see how hot he still looks.
Your a beautiful person and dont need his negqativity.Tell him to hire you a nanny or cleaning person and you will look better.Try some time for yourself too.Let him sit with the kids and if he cant or wont tell him he helped make them and if he had to carry a bowling ball for 9 months how sexy would he look..
2007-01-12 21:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by karen e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just need some time for yourself. I know it is easier said than done. After you put your children to bed spend some time on your self pamper yourself. Tell your husband if he wants you to look like these other women he needs to help you out so you can shop for yourself a new outfit, Maybe get a hair cut. I am trying to give you ideas to help your self esteem. Also you need to be congratulated on running a home and taking care of three children.Does he think the meals get cooked by themselves. Does the house clean its self, I know with that many living in a home you have a lot of laundry.What does this man expect?
2007-01-12 22:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair and not sensitive for your husband to do that. He should understand that you have your kids and him to look after and would not have much time to do much about yourself. On the other hand though, maybe he just wants to look after yourself too. Take some time to pamper yourself, put on your make up and dress up. It would indeed be hard to look the way you used to but with a bit of time management (heck, order some takeout instead of cooking dinner sometimes), you could improve your current look . Men do oftentimes have this incredible expectations but that's just the way they are. Women rise up to the challenge, as we always do.
But if he really gets nasty about it then compare him also to other hot single men you know and give him a bit of his own medicine.
2007-01-12 22:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by woman in the well 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be thinking to yourself this:
You think i wan to be like this? y cant i like you man have a life of my own? It is so unfair! i have done so much!
If you continue to think it is unfair, it is your choice but don't forget when you say no choice is also a choice you have made for yourself.
You have a choice and strength to make this better. Perhaps start going out. No matter how busy, squeeze 1 hour (even if its your only sleeping time) in a week or 2 weeks to go out to do a hobby etc. You don't have to be extremely dressed but just be self conscious. Look around, and slowly, you might find yourself and overcome this. You might need to be even affected by your husband anymore.
This step may seems tedious and impossible. yes it definitely hurts, but you have come so far and y not continue.
2007-01-12 22:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by a girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is being selfish and cold. There is ample reason for you to be hurt, annoyed and mad. Ask him if you can compare him to single guys and see what he thinks of that. Ask him to chase after 3 kids all day and see what he thinks of that too. Then tell him to cook, do the laundry, clean the house, truck the kids back and forth, etc etc. Maybe he'll get the picture. If that doesn't do it, shut him off for a while.
2007-01-12 21:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I am so sorry! What a load of crap! There is no excuse for him talking to you like that !!!
You say you have three children. Doesn't he too? Does he speak to you disrespectfully in front of them? What are your sons and daughters learning from this?
Of course it hurts your feelings, and no way could he not know that. Please tell him calmly how you feel. You will see if he cares or not. Act accordingly. Either way, don't sell yourself short or settle for going through the rest of your life being criticized and belittled. Best of luck!
2007-01-12 21:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I'm a mother of two myself.
Anyway, revenge is sweeeeeet....hurt him back, when u see a nice looking guy just tell him how much younger men are more attractive etc...
Play his game...so when u hurt him he'll understand what u r going thru everytime he opens his mouth and make remarks about single women
2007-01-12 21:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No he shouldn't do that. Some people are jerks. I would telll him he could watch the kids and would go get my hair done, get a new outfit and go to the movies with a friend. You need a day like that and he needs to help you with the kids. Do something for you and don't feel guilty about it. I don't know how you can handle his hateful mouth. Maybe he wants you to want to get out and feel good about you and he is trying to get you too. If he keeps on about it I would smack him!
2007-01-12 21:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by holliemay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not fair and he sounds like a jerk, for doing so! Does he help out around the house or help with the children? I would bet not.
You need to have a serious talk with him. Don't allow him to belittle you, like this.
2007-01-12 21:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by rustybones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you want to be dissatisfied which includes your husband, no longer an impressionable youthful female. in case you want to play with fireplace, then cheat on him with a 21 year old jock. i does no longer advise, notwithstanding it truly is an rather good thanks to come again at him. i'd advise a separation and only bypass out and characteristic some relaxing for awhile.
2016-10-30 23:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by pour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋