I have already asked her to marry me becuase I believe its the right thing to do but I don't know if I have made a mistake or not.
2007-01-12 21:38:34 · 15 answers · asked by kiwi_2800 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since you already asked her, go with your gut. You are going to have doubts. That's only natural.
2007-01-12 21:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it's the right thing to do should never be a reason to get married. Because you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her is. Marriage is a commitment, one that should be entered into with idea that it will be forever. Having doubts is normal if you believe in forever. It's the rest of your life, you can't see the future so you can only go by what you feel now.Base your decision on them and make sure you know the other persons dreams and goals beforehand. If you have different plans for your lives then things won't work out. Finances, children, a home and careers are all things you should discuss before you jump the broom. Good Luck
2007-01-13 05:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by noddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Well, how long have you and your lady been together? My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and still are not sure about getting married. There are so many things to think about. (ex. will both families get along, how will you 2 financially support eachother...etc)
Also, it depends if you have an honest relationship. I KNOW, my boyfriend and I tell eachother everything, honestly and if we don't like what one another does, we don't beat around the bush, we tell it like it is, right then and there. Now, if you and your girlfriend don't have a very strong communication bond, then maybe it's a good idea NOT to get married. The last thing you want is to get divroced because true colours start showing through when you get to REALLY know the person.
In the end, it's all up to you. Consider the factors I wrote for you, and if you want, message me and we can talk.
"Everything is a choice. It's up to you to decide on one and go through with it."
Best Wishes in 2007!
~ Shelley ~
2007-01-13 05:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by ♫♥♫Teagan♦Smiley♫♥♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a very sincere person and I think you could be happy together .Ask her how she feels about the situation ,its a big step for you both .Do you enjoy the same interests,ideas,pastimes.Do you work out ,money problems together?What are your joint views on children,marriage,family,social life,where would you live?All these questions need answers.Do you you love her?Does she love you ?If the answer is yes then you will be okay!Lindsay.Good luck with your hopes and dreams.
2007-01-13 06:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you support a wife and kids? Is she old enough and smart enough to be a Mother? Have you talked about where you will live? Where you will work? What Religion you will raise your children? Who will do what around the house? These may seem easy things to work out but they aren't and millions of marriges every year end in divorce because the practical maters weren't addressed first.
2007-01-13 05:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey dogg,just listen to your heart...this is a step in your life that might lead to your destiny or doom,and no one can advice you on what to do about this very big step....but whatever you decide let it be the rigth thing for you, and dont try to please anyone about it, and dont be scared about your decission,stay firm to defend your decission....wishing you lots of luck and love all da way....
2007-01-13 05:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by odi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take your time-there is a possibility that you are in love with the idea of being in love. that is not enough to determine what the rest of your life will be like.
if i were you i would wait-it is pointless to rush marriage.
just take your time!
prosper
2007-01-13 05:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by prosper 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you think its the right thing to do dan its the right thing to do...but have u sat down and gave it a thought i mean are you reali at that stage where u want to get settled?
2007-01-13 05:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by Naima 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a case of cold feet... Do what you FEEL is the right thing.
2007-01-13 05:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Blackdog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you just answered your own question...go with your gut feeling! n
2007-01-13 05:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋