Well she devolped a relationship with her boss they made fun of me together and made important decicions together i cant stand the fact that she let someone say crap about me they had no right she had no right i was disabled and had alot of health problems i needed her shoulders her support and it was not there not i lie awake a night thinking of them and how i was left so alone and scared not knowing if i was going to live to see next month and she was out doing this stuff i think she was tring to find a replacement for me if i die or wanted to leave me but couldent because of the small voice telling her that she was wrong she say's now all she wants is "us to be together" and i cant sleep any more i have been a devoted husband and father for 5 years why would she let me fall flat on my face in my time of need , she used to be supportive and helped me when i could not do much but i was still able to provide her with a husband just not on my bad days when i was weak .
2007-01-12 20:38:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She more than likely had an affair with him I am 90% sure she consistinly took his side in descions that only her and I should make there was no game i mean hey i can take a joke i love to laugh but what i am tring to say is that for 9 months I was emotionaly starved from my wife and i did contribute to this relationship i treated her well and she knows this i have done a great job raisng our child but this is the thanks i get for all my hard work she went along with her boss'es opinion rather than stick up for me its like this I have been cured of my disablity and i am around 80% health doing physical theripy and working on improving my relationship but i guess i nedded to vent about this and we have elected to do couples theripie lol if that will help if she was my best friend like the one dude says she would have been there for me. she let me down and broke my spirt but my will has been tested and this will only make me stronger. i just cant get over her. she broke my heart she
2007-01-12 21:07:42 · update #1
she know's all this how i feel and stuff but all i get is " all I want is us to be together I know i did wrong" thats it ...I dont know all i know is i am broken over this.
2007-01-12 21:09:05 · update #2
if you keep falling flat on your face its not her shoulders you need, its her legs!
2007-01-12 20:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Understand that everyone deals with stress in different ways. What your wife did does not sound right, but when faced with the stress of your problems, maybe she did not know what to do. Please talk to her. You deserve to feel loved and happy- and maybe through some very honest communication, you two can become partners. Support goes 2 ways, and yes, you needed to be the one taking a bit more- but you still have to give something to the relationship. Help draw her out and see if there is something there you can still love. Maybe seek some sort of counseling for both of you. Good luck.
2007-01-12 20:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what's the hardest to do: leave a marriage that's bad for you or work out a marriage with tough problems. In either case you need to make a decision, make a plan and take action.
I'm not sure the marriage is worth having if you don't love, support and trust one another.
2007-01-12 20:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by Christy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really feel sorry for you buddy! If it was my wife i would be greatly disappointed. Making fun of you...well thats the lowest whit i think! Its your choice to forgive & to try forget. THe seed is planted & 4 the rest of your life with her you will suffer to trust! I suggest you tell her about your anger inside & your hurting feelings. Then search seriuos help for a year or six! If she dont see your side of the picture just remember...she didnt even see it when 'making fun' with her boss.
I wish you all the best!
2007-01-12 20:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by crisjul v 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to show the type of person your wife is. She's only there for the good times. When the going gets tough, she;s going to bail,.
2007-01-13 00:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dude life is tough. i know u need her but i guess she is not interested. well u cant hold her forever if she wants to leave u let her go but may be she is trying to cheer you up and u r taking it in a wrong way. the best way is to clear up things. tell her what is disturbing you. if she wants to leave let her go.
" if u love someone let her go, if she comes back she is yours and if not she wasnt"
2007-01-12 20:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by J@W@D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to explain everything you just said to her. The only way to get past this is to confront her about this. In fact, maybe write it out in letter if that helps.
2007-01-12 20:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sleepyguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a pitiable situation.Leave her if you can. she is not worth living with.Be a strong man,and do not look behind in the past. Life cannot be wasted on such people.
2007-01-12 20:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I would leave her in a heartbeat, file for divorce and get some counseling. Best of luck to you and prayers coming your way.
2007-01-12 22:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tell her this. But if you really feel that she hasn't been there for you when you needed her, then I'm sorry to say that this is NOT love from her end. Is that what you really want?
2007-01-12 20:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are making it too big man she is your wife. You must consider your wife as a close and best friend thats it with good understanding. Take it easy man enjoy life with your wife.
2007-01-12 20:48:24 · answer #11 · answered by vjkiran 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋