I hit my wife(years ago)-paying for it now-left with kids-can marrige be saved?

Answer 1

If hitting her years ago was the biggest issue, you would have paid for it years ago.
I think you missed something.
Now may be too late.
Not an impossible situation if you are able to see where you went wrong and do something to make some profound changes in your life.
It will all depend on how sincere you are and of course wether or not she has anything left in her to want to give it another go

Answer 2

No. You let the situation deteriorate to the point of no return, looooooong before you hit your wife. It's a symptom, not a cause of the problem. Usually, when the man is normal (as opposed to a man who hits a woman because he is a scumbag, psychotic, felon or drug user), it's because he chose to be involved with a woman who is nuts. Not being experienced enough to know she is nuts (and dump her before the relationship becomes more than just screwing her a few times), he lets the interaction between him and her become more and more abnormal, degrading and disturbed. This happens a little bit at a time until he finds himself doing things with her that are completely insane. Violence, in this situation, is usually the man, who is heavily invested in a sick woman, who thinks he can't leave the woman because he has kids with her or something, engaging in a desperate last ditch effort to reassert control of the situation. As you probably know from experience, this is not possible and society does not really allow that option to normal men (psychotic, evil men live by a different set of rules that involve being just fine with being in and out of prison culture).

Your mistake was not being aware of the issue and nipping the whole thing in the bud at the first sign of this.

Answer 3

No ... your marriage cannot b saved w/o counseling. You hitting her was a result of underlying issues. U need to find out together what both of your issues r and learn how to deal with them. If there is no LOVE ,counseling won't help keep u together either but it will help u deal w/ raising the children in seperate homes.!st step is to make sure u want a marriage then realize what that means.Wife & husband r best friends 1st & for-most.Trying to hurt each other is OUT! It takes a TRUE desire to make a marriage work &complete UNSELFISHNESS. If you can't do that things like trust,commitment to each other ,inner happiness,sexual desire,goals,strong family bonds, Excitement within the marriages,Truth,love and the true sharing of faith in God ,all these things will never ...........b achieved!!!!!! These are the things which make your life SHARED in a marriage.Thats what happiness in marriage is , to b together as Best friends. 100% loving sharing & dedicating your life with each other.If you can't do that why b married???????

Answer 4

Seek counseling you did a bad thing, but your not condemed for it. People can change when you want too and truly change be sorry(remorse) for what you did.
Never hit a female ....ever.

I have been married 24 years and I have never hit my wife even after she had an affair. What kind of Man do you want to be?
What kind of Man are you?

How do you handle situations when it comes to relations will determine that, but never, never hit a female no matter what. Let her sock you one in the mouth and turn away and walk away and take it like a Man, but never strike back.

The end result is one great victory for you and you will simply be amazed to see what happens next, but you must pass the test of times when that situation occurs.

Answer 5

As a woman, if my man hit me, I would be afriad of him, which means I would no longer respect him and in turn means I could no longer love him.

There is nothing in this world more repulsive then when someone hurts a person who they are supposed to protect. Like people who are violent towards thier kids - how can it be! How can you hurt someone who loves you - sorry I just don't understand.

Bottom line - your marriage can't be saved. If you really have changed, start again with someone else and never let her know what you did.

Answer 6

i can't tell the future, but...

if she took the kids and left, i'd take it as a sign that she doesn't want to be with you anymore, and doesn't want her kids to be, either.

it isn't easy to walk away from a guy and be a single mother. so she must have very good reason for doing so, even if you don't agree with her opinion.

you can do your best to express to her that you will try to save the marriage (why not offer to pay for marriage counseling?), but in the end, you will have to respect her decisions, and then think of the lessons you can learn from this.

one is that trust can be completely lost in a moment, but takes a very long time and a lot of effort to build back up again.

Answer 7

It really depends on what happen, and what you mean by left with kids. I understand losing the wife is important but you kids should be number one.I grew up in a family where my father hit my mother when i was a kid and im tell you , you should be more focus on your kids then you marriage. Try to to family therapy , it may help for the future.

Answer 8

Sit with her and solve the problem, As what you did is very bad and i think you need to ask her a second chance.Though she does any mistake you dont burst out like that, you both should think twice before doing anything.And moreover the mistakes for your mistakes your kids are suffering alot. And This may spoil their future.Please i beg you dont get seperated.

And moreover you are guilty of yourself so tell her the same thing and continue to be good couple.

Answer 9

Ask her if she is willing to give you a chance to prove that you're sorry and you've changed. Start by visiting at a restaurant or coffee place, and just see where it goes. If she isn't willing to try to get back together, you will have to respect that and move on. It sounds like you've grown a lot over the years, and even if she doesn't take you back, you will be able to have a good life with someone else. Good luck.

Answer 10

In most cases, it is the worse thing of all when a man hit/beat their wife. Once a hand has been lay'ed on a woman, most likely the woman will never turn back to that man.

But i hope your case; she'll come back. But you have to cool down and do not hit her again anymore in your life. I doubt she'll trust you again, but you have to give your best promise you ever give...

May God less you..