i am out of words. how would you feel if you were the husband and how would you feel in you were the wife who lost it. mind you she has not been emotional about it at all. cheating is not the issue so lets rule that out.honest answers please
2007-01-12 19:54:29 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you know there is INSURANCE for that.
2007-01-12 19:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My wife has already done that. A two carat Dimaond ring lost shortly after we got married. Now listen very closely. The pain that she went through is unlike anything I have ever seen in a Woman.
I purchased her another ring, but it was no two carats I tell ya that. It was a 1/2 carat diamond ring and today she still has it on her finger and loves it just as much.
I have never brought up the fact she lost the two carat diamond ring to her face in 24 years of marriage,. You don't do that. ITs' gone you move on. Its history.
When she lost her ring, I was so worried about her that I thought she was going to die. Can you imagine the pain that goes thru a Womans mind when that happens and you must be a very understadnig Man for her to help her cope with it and love her unconditonally.
Now are you ready for this.
I have a surprise for my wife.
Our wedding anniversary is coming up next month and I have already made my last payment on a 2 Carat Diamond Ring. She is literally going to shiiit, but I tell you, the best part of this is looking at her face and wondering if I can handle it after I give it to her because she going to rip me apart. There's no doubt in my mind that she will break down and literally and start crying uncontrollably. I have kept this secret from her for five years and now its' time to reveal it soon. The best part about this and why I did it is because she has been the best wife to me and my children and she deserves it.
Peace out...Al
2007-01-12 20:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...I would be upset, no doubt if my hubby lost a ring of that value. I would be crushed if I lost it and wouldn't even know how to tell him. I would hope that he would try to understand that it was an accident (if it was). Things can be replaced. Obviously you are secure that she is not cheating. So many things could have happened to it. I had a friend steal a ring from me that was sitting on a window sill after I did dishes. It took years before I figured out what happened to it.
Maybe she didn't lose it ...it is possible that it isn't her fault. I, although would have been crying my eyes out that I lost it and in total panic mode....
Remember, if you have a good marriage and you love each other, the ring really doesn't matter. It is a symbol, the actual dollar value if irrelevant to the meaning of it. A $100 ring would mean the same.
Good luck.
2007-01-12 20:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A ring is a symbol of the bond between the bride and groom.
what difference should it make how much it costs? Have some sympathy for the loved on and show some support. Remember hearing this "through good times and bad". Just pick up a small band and forget it. Be happy you are still together, alive and healthy. Live the rest of your lives happy instead if having to look back with ill feelings to this, just a fleeting moment, a sad time. Let it go. Love not guilt. Love means never having to berate your bride....
2007-01-12 20:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Wabbit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset if my wife lost her wedding ring. If it was inshured you should claim the insurance on it so that you can get another one. Support her in what she feels, but remember that you are still married, and that it's not the end of the world after all it's only a ring even though it's really expensive.
Be sure that you carefully look through your house and car to be sure that it's not there. I would only get a cheaper replacement ring bu also remember that the ring is a sign of you being together.
Just be sure that you are there for her if she needs support because even though she's not emotional now she may be later on.
2007-01-12 20:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she just figures....shyt happens...and don't let it eat at her...money is the issue here, because of the amount spent...would you still be this upset if it were... a...$10.00 ring. Don't get me wrong...i DO understand...we all would have some kind of grief, but whats done is done..and i am sure she has faced all she can, and in fact that would give her no emotion at all. Just tell her....SHYT HAPPENS...you still love her the same....while sliding a little ring made of paper or just a smallll rubberband,string...what ever. That lets her know for sure...YOU HAVE FORGIVEN her...I have lost many pieces of jewerly... and hey,wheres that chain you had, as a young boy? Maybe she's spending more time thinking, wheremight it be....just give her time...you look at it costing 10, 000 $$$....Shes looking at the big picture...
2007-01-12 21:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was the wife that lost a $10,000.00 wedding ring, I think I would be bending over backwards begging your forgiveness and kicking myself in the butt for taking it off in the first place!
OMG what a lucky woman to have a man to love her enough to buy her a ring like that!
It's not so much that it cost almost what I make in a year but the fact that you thought so much of her. What was she thinking?
The poor woman must be beside herself and just doesn't know what kind of emotion to be showing (unless she really hasn't lost it and just trying to test you).
How long have y'all been married?
2007-01-12 20:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by lill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not emotional about it, then how spoiled is she that 10000dollars means so little.......?---then again, if it was truly sentimental,it seems like she would have been upset for that alone----MAYBE she is just not seeming emotional, because she is so scared of your reaction to her losing it, that she's just kinda frozen at the moment-----next time, try a plain gold band to signify your love
And if the husband spends that much on a tiny object that obviously could easily be lost, then he should have been prepared for that possibility when he bought it.....-----if you aren't worried about cheating, then just be glad your marriage is intact, and admit you've lost an object or two in your life, and kiss her and move past this
2007-01-12 20:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by blue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i were the husband, definitely i will get angry about how she lost it and the fact that she's not emotional about it would make me wonder ' isn't that special to her'. maybe she's not cheating or i can ask you how she is after she lost it. If she still care and love the same way as before then maybe she just didn't want to talk about it. what's more important to her maybe is she being a wife to you and besides in her mind you can always afford to give her new one. she should say sorry men!
2007-01-12 20:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by pete s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People make mistakes all the time, including you.... Losing things is normal. Sorry it happened, but try not to take it out on her. Afterall it's just an item. And love is more important. Get her another ring if you want...I know it isn't the same but it's already done. n
2007-01-12 20:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I lost my wedding ring, I would probably be so upset that I couldn't show emotion either. But that's me.
Maybe she is upset. Maybe she sold it. Does she have secret debts? You need to confront her about it. There's no reason for you to keep all your hurt to yourself. Tell her how you feel, and tell her you want to know what happened.
2007-01-12 20:02:45 · answer #11 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋