I have always had it when we were dating and just married but i don't feel it anymore. I do nt have the desire to have sex anymore. But my husband does and i feel so bad and want to feel those feelings again. Can i get them back and waht does it mean. Am i no in love with him anymore, is it hormones, i am only 21 so i feel like i should be into sex all the time but im not???
2007-01-12 19:03:33 · 14 answers · asked by kort 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't worry what your going through is very normal I assure you.Right now he is in his sexual prime that is why he wants it all the time.But you haven't even started yet believe it or not a woman in her late30's and 40's are highly sexual.When I was told that I thought they were crazy until I went through it myself.I'm not saying that you won't want to have sex until then all I'm saying is it gives you something to look forward to as you get older.Now about the tingling feelings you want back .There is only one way you can get them back and it does work at least it worked for me.When the two of you are in the act it self think about the first time you saw him think about the first kiss think about how lucky you are to have him as your husband and you are the one he married when there were so many girls that wanted him he picked you.Just try it see if it works for you GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-12 19:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are suffering with a case of normal. Those tingling feeling are infatuation not love. They come and go. You didn't tell how your life changed after marriage. Didn't you notice how you settled down and started reaching out to some friends and family that you had not been as close with. Did you and your husband start separating your interest and recreational activities
Are you and him still communicating like you did when dating. Probably not so remember love is a verb a word of action and we decide if we will love or not. So start paying closer attention to the relationship. Tell your husband how you need affection, conversation and affirmation of your feelings to feel sexy. you want to still be romanced and all this is normal
2007-01-13 03:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Roger W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That exciting tingling feeling when two people fall in love isn't meant to be felt forever. What takes it's place is hopefully a deeper, more cemented love. The tingling feeling comes and goes throughout a lifelong relationship as you find new reasons to fall in love again. Perhaps you should speak with a counselor to get to the root of the issue.
2007-01-13 03:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to talk to your husband. Don't blindside him, but tell him you want to work on this and want to see a Marriage therapist. I'm sure you heard this before, but you were too young to get married. They shouldn't let people get married until they are at least 25. Anyway, the therapist can help with your feelings and sex life. You both deserve a strong, loving marriage. Get the help you need before there are children. Good Luck
2007-01-13 03:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love is not about having sex all the time. Refrain from sex for a while and get your husband to take you out on dates, maybe to the place you first met. You will soon realise what it was about him that made you fall in love with him.
The main thing really though is to talk to one another, does he know how you feel?
2007-01-13 03:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend had the same problem...but she loves her husband and has now been married for a year and half...it'll come back...it's probably hormones and everything...you could be pregnant, then you'd have a less of a sex drive and your attitude would be changing! Good Luck
2007-01-13 03:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by softball_whitney_04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same exact problem with one of my ex's. Except for it was me that was losing interest, not her. I never quite figured out exactly why it happened. I still loved her, but i was not interested in sex anymore. I believe that i had realized inside that she was not the right person for me so i started to push her away. I know this won't make you feel better if it's the answer to your problem. Sorry for that.
2007-01-13 03:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by jason0860 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all women go through it when they have in house loving (if you know what i mean),try new things,try going out on a date like you use to maybe that will bring back some of those feelings,you are probably just a little sexed out right now give it time it will go away.
2007-01-13 03:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by sassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any kids? If you do then maybe the attention is dragging into that. If you don't it might mean you and him need a break to put your thoughts in order. Maybe your tired of the same routine change it up a little it might help if you put a little of your part and change it to where you like it for a bit.
2007-01-13 03:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by ~Escorpion~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. It could be hormones. Are you taking the pill? Sometmes that changes your feelings and behaviors. If you are, call your OB/GYN and ask if you can change brands or something.
Also, give it some time. Things can swing back around in your favor!
Good luck.
2007-01-13 03:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋