ive been married for 9 months but my husband doesnt look at me,one day he came home with a playboy magazine and he said hes not looking at naked females he is just looking at some stuff to buy he said "if i want to look at a naked female i will just come home and look at my wife.
but one day i was looking at our computers history and to my surprise i found out that he's been looking at pornsites.when i confronted him he said he's just looking at females pictures for **** and giggles.i found out that he checks out pornsites everychace he gets or whenever im not around but he never look at me,he never touch me.is he tired of me?guys looking at porns pictures and other females is normal but i am here,i am real dont you think that is an insult?
2007-01-12 18:37:40 · 23 answers · asked by up4anything 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry to say that I have been / am in your shoes. I do find it insulting. And I have no good advice on how to handle it. Install some software like k-9 web protection. It is free. Because eventually he will start hiding it from you. I don't know what to do even still. Since he noticed that I installed the software and he can't figure out how to get rid of it his porn watching has lessened. but still. It is sad and isn't healthy for us.
2007-01-13 13:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by michele46us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, what type of porn is the key to it all. If it's straight porn then maybe he's looking for something you aren't offering. Sometimes a guy will go to porn because it has the social stigma of freakiness. Instead of bombarding him with questions try being your own little seductress. You don't have to get down right stripper with it (unless he likes that) but start wearing something casual but teasing. Add a little sexiness to everyday stuff like how you brush your hair or how you change your clothes. And finally, don't wait for him to approach you, catch him when he's relaxing and 'blow' his mind. Once 'up' I doubt he'll push you away. If he does then this is deeper than Yahoo answers and counseling should be considered. Good luck.
2007-01-13 02:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion to you is to try something really off the wall. Sounds like you are the typical "missionary" wife. He has had enough of the same old same old and is looking for what he does not have. One thing about marriage, if you do not keep it interesting, it will move on and become boring. Try something wild like walking up to him while he is "reading" playboy or looking at a porn site in the nude, kneeling infront of him and saying "Sir, your slave needs to be serviced and spanked" see if that catches his attention. If that does not work , then their is a real serious problem.
2007-01-13 04:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by daddyspanksalot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all man look at porn.Your husband has you when ever he wants you,the thrill is gone for him he knows what he is getting with you.You need to make it fun for him again.Here is what you should do the next time the two of you are riding in your car at night surprise him with a BJ.if you can't do that because of the size of your car then he won't mind a hand job.It's things like that ,that will get him interested in looking at you and not the whores on the Internet.
2007-01-13 03:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well As you said i think he is very passionate about love making and he wants you to act like the babes he sees in the pictures or in prone movies, make him feel comfortable while having good times be as he want u to be, and if after that also he ignores you then he is seek he cant do any thing accept watching naked babes and satisfying his mind.
2007-01-13 02:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I think your husband has a problem and most likely it has nothing to do with you. Try to get him to talk to you about his sexual desires (you have to listen to him without being defensive or judging) and then you can try and understand what he needs to feel relaxed and enjoy being with you. He sounds very uptight and uncomfortable with the real thing so I does it by himself.
2007-01-13 02:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Taf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was he ever like this when you started the relationship? if he was, then why'd you marry him in the first place?
if he wasn't, then chances are he's found someone/something else that excites his libido more than you do. (he doesn't find you sexually attractive anymore, sorry)
talk to him about it. then make a decision. either you let it go and stick with him, or you get fed up and dump him.
2007-01-13 02:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-13 02:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by Polo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'd be insulted if my husband prefered a photo to the real thing.
The fact that he doesn't touch you tells me he has a serious problem. See a counselor and ask for advice, and tell your husband you are going to see this counselor because of HIS BEHAVIOR. Ask him to go with you to the psychologist's office (That should be an interesting conversation!)
2007-01-13 02:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what his problem is but it is not porn..
Tell him you love him and want to stay married but
you will not stay in a marriage without love or sex...
He can straighten up or you are going to divorce him.
2007-01-13 02:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋