As shallow as this sounds, im having a hard time being around my friends kids. They are really rude and misbehave and are generally annoying but my friend doesnt think its a problem and gets quite defensive when others share their parenting ideas with her.
She is a great person, and a young mum who has had it tough, but her kids are getting in the way of our friendship and i get angry when they say rude things to me?
How would you handle this?
2007-01-12 18:25:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
All my friends have children or are expecting children & I am not. I'm not even close. In fact, after seeing how they raise their kids, I'm not sure if I even WANT kids. But if I even mention something like that, people think I'm crazy. It may be their greatest joy to pro-create, but it ain't mine.
When your friends have babies, it changes everything. Its harder to relate to each other when they're changing diapers and your changing your outfit for the club later that night. And they really don't want or need your opinions on child-rearing, especially when you don't have kids yourself. I know from first-hand experience. My old friends that have kids now, I have had to distance myself from because we don't share the same goals or beliefs anymore. It happens that way sometimes. But I wouldn't give up on your friend. Just let her know that when her kids disrespect you, your not going to let them get away with it. No matter who the kid is, all kids should have respect for people older then them.
2007-01-12 18:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by aston184 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl!!! I'd just stay away. If your bestfriend doesn't realize that she has bad kids, then you can't do anything about it. I'm so sorry. There are parents like that in the world, kids could be bad as hell and they just let them be. See, my kids are well behaved because that's how I taught them to be. If the kids mother doesn't think they are doing anything wrong, then she's not going to attempt to discipline them. If you've tried to be a friend and voice your opinion and if others have told her and she still doesn't do anything about it, then all I can say is keep your distance because nothing is going to change. Maybe if everyone stays away she'll start wondering why and if everyone is honest and tells her, maybe, just maybe, she'll start seeing what everyone else around her sees. I wish you all the best. If you can hang in there then I admire you and you're better than me!!
2007-01-12 18:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her that her children have been acting out and suggest some ways that she could correct the problem. Don't make her feel like she's doing something wrong, just let her know that she might want to observe her children's behavior from an outsider's perspective and then proceed to address the problem as she sees fit.
2007-01-12 18:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kaley-girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time they say something rude to you just tell them that you don't like that kind of talk and they aren't to say that to you again. if they disobey you, tell your friend that you are sorry, but until she respects you enough to make her children behave, you won't be around. ANd leave.
2007-01-12 18:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you value your friendship but you will not let any-ones children especially her children disrespect you.
2007-01-12 19:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by m W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋