I used to be able to orgasm all the time, yet about 6 months ago it just stopped. No matter what I do I cannot orgasm.. I get nearly there like I can feel that Im about to but then it goes away.. it feels like it just jumps over it.. once it goes away i usually stop because im overly sensitive (like you usually are after you orgasm) yet there is no orgasm!
Ive tried toys, and all sorts of things like that. I was told before to just wait and it would come back, but its been like SIX months since ive had an orgasm when i used to be able to with NO problem ever!
What could be causing this?
2007-01-12 18:11:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I have a boyfriend and i cant orgasm with him anymore either. im sure im worrying about it and thats part of it but its been six months..
2007-01-12 18:23:52 · update #1
You're thinking about it too much.
Ease back, and let the King take control.
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2007-01-12 18:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 8⤋
Leave the toys alone and concentrate on you and your boyfriend , nothing like the real thing! Stress and frustration of wanting to orgasm and everyday life can cause you not to have an orgasm.You are worrying too much about this. Relax and set the mood so you will be able to orgasm, music, candles, a drink, or a romantic dinner for the two of you. Don't be in a big hurry, take your time and enjoy yourselves. Best Wishes!
2007-01-12 18:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like stress. Has something changed recently in your life? I don't think it's a permanent problem. It could also be that your trying to hard to have an orgasm. Give it time and sometimes toys aren't the answer just a really good mate is. Has your partner changed in the last six months?
2007-01-12 18:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by cheri_anne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stress, the pressure to achieve, and above all - just not being comfortable. Chill out, relax, and enjoy. You will be overflowing in no time. If this does not work, I have had experience with a bubble bath by candlelight with a glass of wine and it works wonders. Follow up with a total body massage and another glass of wine with Marvin Gaye on the stereo, low lighting, and chocolate covered strawberries. Good hunting.
2007-01-12 18:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you my be too anxious, and for good reason. Whether it is due to stress or something else, you are pressing too hard for the orgasm. Relax! Don't aim for the goal. Enjoy the journey. Without the pressure you are placing on your performance, you might just make it...no..allow it to happen for you.
Good luck!
2007-01-12 18:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by maddojo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it is all the chemicals that the toys are made of that your sticking inside your body. Why not get a real penis, have real sex instead of playing with your self all the time.
2007-01-12 18:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying for a little while, you may be over stimulated and your body needs the rest.
2007-01-12 23:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STRESS!!!! You need to totally relax and dont consentrate on it just let it happen and take your time, wait til you have ample time to take a hot bath and drink some wine or have a beer. Relaxx and go to town!! Have fun but dont stress it your fine!!! ~court
2007-01-12 18:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by court 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
try doing kegel excersises, this strengthens a muscle called the pc muscle, therefore increasing the intensity and frequency of your orgasms. also, try a different type of stimulation on your clitoris, ice, heat, velvet, satin, etc... hope this helps!
2007-01-12 18:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Miklo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's probably mental (stress, etc).
Be careful of vibrating toys. They can desensitize your clitoris making orgasm harder to achieve.
2007-01-12 18:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by DiRTy D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may be trying to hard and also using toys you may be getting too used to the sensation.
2007-01-12 18:14:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋