Is it normal for the roles to be switched in a marriage where the husband has the role of "Not tonight dear I have a headache?"
This headache has lasted for like 14 years
2007-01-12 18:07:06 · 25 answers · asked by Mary Jane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ask him why he's had that headache for the last 14 years? confront him about your feelings? Why not tonight? When? If he's not sexually attracted to you anymore, talk to him about it? Maybe you need to go for a few jogs, do a few sit ups or something. you'll never know if you don't confront him about this problem.
And NO it's not normal...if it's lasted for 14 years...you sure are patient
2007-01-12 18:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If after 14 years you are still willing to deal with this you should ask yourself, "do I really care?" If you do why haven't you done anything about it? All you have to do is get him to open up and tell you what he wants from you sexually. See what things he thinks about. Get him to feel comfortable with you and he will be all over you. If you don't care enough to do that then just move that energy into something for yourself. Get a hobby or a big dildo... or both. When he sees that you don't need him he will want you and then he can wonder why you have a headache. But to answer your basic question, the whole headache thing is just an excuse. Some people want to play hard to get and some people feel stressed when they think about sex because they lack confidence in their abilities. This is not gender specific. So if he is not throughing you down and riding you after a few months of "doing your own thing". Boost his ego. Make him feel like a stud. Flirt with him like he is a stranger. Look at his body with lust. Look at him like you have never seen him before everytime he is naked.
2007-01-12 18:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tyler D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has he had a physical exam in the past 14 years? Please call your husband's physician and discuss the problem before his next annual exam.
Also, ask your spouse about the problem.
You have the right to confront your husband about 14 years of unhappiness. Granted, it may only have been YOUR unhappiness, but nevertheless, it IS an unhappy time for someone in your marriage! He needs to own HIS element of the problem.
If you aren't getting the results you want, see a counselor for additional suggestions. This can really be depressing, and you probably need to vent!
2007-01-12 18:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal if you haven't had sex with your husband in 14 yrs. If it's just not as often as you'd like then talk to him about it. Try to make it exciting again for both of you. Offer him some advil during the evening just out of the blue. when he says he doesn't need it jump his bones.
2007-01-12 18:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by QandA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!
14 years of headaches does not sound normal to me. I could go on about Oprah and Dr. Phill, but you guys have to read ALL of these. Cat
2007-01-12 18:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by christancat2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you put up for 14 years? Leave him and find some one to your liking or stay single. Living with him has been as living single. At least you will get back your freedom.
2007-01-12 18:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by rams 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well no,no at all ..maybe hes more interested in someone else now.better take some time and solve whats going on between you people ..., but u dont overlook the headache part also ,
2007-01-12 18:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Amit G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not common, but still normal. Try counseling if it's a big deal to you. Best of luck.
2007-01-12 18:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd gladly come over to show you that I have no headache!
I Never have sexual enjoyment anymore since our Child came about!!!!!!
2007-01-12 18:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think this is normal he stopped being into to u along time
2007-01-12 18:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋