My friends don't like eachother, but they act like they're the greatest friends ever. All three of them confide their thoughts to me. What should I do? I'm trapped in the middle.
2007-01-12 17:45:52 · 9 answers · asked by Tears Behind the Smile 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should stay the hell out of it, is what you should do!!! They're going to work it all out one way or another ... whether its to be best of friends again or never speak to one another again, but frankly it's not your concern. Take it from one who knows...it'll all just end up with them hating YOU if you get mixed into this!
2007-01-12 17:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would suck. Are they making you feel like you have to choose a side? Get them together and tell them upront that this has to stop. If they have a problem with eachother they need to not put you in the middle. Let them know that they don't have to like eachother, but they will respect you if they want to be your friend.
And why aren't they friends if they're all friends with you? Maybe you can get them all together and work it out or have them get to know eachother. It's impossible to have good friendships with these people if all they bring to the table is contention and negativity. They'll turn it against you if you don't do something because they'll eventually want you to take sides. You will have very few best friends in your life, if they're worth keeping in your life, make it stop. If not, go your separate ways.
2007-01-13 01:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like Switzerland, and stay neutral. You could tell them, individually of course, what they are doing to you, how it's making you feel, and that you are still friends with the other girl/s. If they can't respect your feelings then they aren't such good friends in the first place, and you should feel no remorse in losing them. It sounds like you're the one growing up, and have moved beyond their petty differences. Maybe it's time for branching out and getting some new friends. Of course if you do this, they will band together and talk about you now. Sometimes you just can't win.
2007-01-13 01:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate when my friends do this.
When i was younger i had a huge fight and there was too sides.
one side for this girl and other for me and friends. what we did was me and the other girl who i was in a fight with met face to face, we didnt bring our friends because last time we did that we got into a fight and started pushing eachother. but we met face to face.. and started talking about memories. cuz we were bestfriends so we had a lot.. and one said i really miss being ur friend.. can u please forgive me? the other replied i really miss you too.. yes. most likly ur friends may be feeling the same way u do.. u want them back. MOST people dont just drop their friends just lke that either there hurt.. or just become friends again. maybe get all u guys together and talk about it. face to face. remember be open for changed and oppinions.. dont try to argue
2007-01-13 01:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that they are wasting their time by being mad at each other and that they really should just get over their issues or just stop confiding in you. If thy can't learn to play nice with each other, then you just need to tell them to stop complaining about each other because you don't want to get caught up in this drama, you just want to be their friend.
2007-01-13 01:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should not do anything. Let them tell their things to u. U also keep listening from 1 ear and let it go through the other ear. Dats simple.
2007-01-13 01:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by || SMI || 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Normal nonsense that people do. If it bothers you then find other friends
They probably are using you as the go between.
2007-01-13 02:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell them you don't want to be the middle...Plug your ears when they start talking about each other, they will get the message...Just stay out of it.....
2007-01-13 01:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them either knock it off and keep their opinions to themselves and not to put you in the middle of it
2007-01-13 01:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋