im divorced, 24. ive been in this new relationship for 16 months. everyday is like a new adventure with my bf. we get along great! then 2 months ago everything just fell apart. i was so confused about where i was and what im doing... my ex just had a child with someone else and i cant have kids... i was feeling out of control.
so one night went out with friends. got hammered, and cheated.
i told him and i broke up with him.
a week later he phoned me and told me im the love of his life and he forgave me.
i was so relieved because that whole experience made me realise that i had exactly what i wanted! im so sorry that i had to hurt him.
now, 2 months later he wants to get married right away...
is this wise? my heart says yes... should i listen?
2007-01-12 17:43:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would wait a little while more...
2007-01-12 18:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people go wrong when making rash decisions like that. You love him and everything is bliss right now. Give him some time to really think about what he wants and you need that time also. It may be months before he begins to feel hurt and throw your affair in your face. Make sure that you are truly trusted by him and that you trust yourself not to ever let it happen again. Make sure you can get drunk and have a good time without thinking about your ex and sleeping with someone else. Give it time. To marry right away would be nice and you may be on cloud 9 for a while, but things can turn bad without warning and quickly. Be smart about it...See things for what they are and not what you want them to be. People often make that mistake...Good Luck!!
2007-01-12 17:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Angel, Well he is an understanding man and at the same time i also know how you felt when you heard he had a baby with someone else. But about the marriage thing,,,,,,,,the first thing i want to say is ,,,"How long have you known him?" And consult your mother for advice. She knows how you have felt on and off with this gent and she also more than likely knows what type of person he is so she will have the best advice for you and that is why i ask you to ask her advice. She does not want to see you hurt. This is a sensitive matter and i wish you good luck. Ann
2007-01-12 17:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart. If you are truly happy with him and can honestly stay faithful to him, then do it. Just make sure that you want to do this and that there is no pressure being put on you. Don't just do it because you don't want to hurt him. You'll hurt him worse in the end if you just did it for him. If you really think he is the love of your life and that you two can make it, then follow your heart. Don't make a mistake. Be sure that this is what you really want. Good luck!
2007-01-12 17:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whats right for you. But you shouldnt rush into the marriage if there is ANY doubt. Just wait a few more months and if everything is going good and you still want to get married the go for it. But "Once a cheater always a cheater".
2007-01-12 17:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember this.........
He will never fully trust you again no matter what he tells you.
Every time you have a fight.........look at a guy etc he will through the affair in your face. It will NEVER to away.
So think, do you what to live the rest of your life like that? Happened to me and I will never forget or trust ever again. Been married now for 25 years and I worry about 75% of the time. I make myself sick over it. Its something that never totally goes away. Deception is a terrible feeling.
2007-01-12 17:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. get married.
2007-01-12 17:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask us, you're not ready. You should wait. Marriage won't make you faithful if you decide to screw around.
2007-01-12 17:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋