Even if your own relationship with your significant other isn't working out, is full of lies, hatred, anger, resentment, severe dishonesty, etc.?
I have had some family members and lots of friends go through this! So please if you have an experience and a opinion based on that feel free to share!
2007-01-12 17:42:56 · 10 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. In the end it is the kids who will suffer more. My parents tried to stay together for the kids and while I am old enough to deal with it, my younger brothers and sisters suffered big time. Kids are not stupid, they pick up on the animosity between you and they end up feeling torn and confused. It would be better to separate because that way you would both be happy living your own lives and while it would take a little time for the kids to get used to parents not being together, they will eventually see how happy you are and they will be happier too. Please, trust me on this one. Why be miserable and make your kids miserable, it might not feel right to leave at the time, but at the end of the day its much better. :-) Good luck...
2007-01-12 20:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isnt right same as getting married just because you are pregnant isnt right. No child deserves to live in a house like that where there is hatred and all of that because you may grow to resent the child and feel as if that is the only reason you stayed and it is there fault. Some may say a child deserves both parents well seperating a child can still have that and not have the stress of living with all of that. It can also give the child the idea of that that is normal for mommys and daddys to treat each other that way and feel that way and could cause problems later in life. Sometimes even if we have kids love them and love the other person it doesn't work out and that is just part of life it sucks and bites but it happens best to get out or everything could escalate. Also not only should the child not have to deal with this but the person shouldnt as well it almost borders on verbal abuse and that can just break a person down so just for everyones sake it is better to leave, in the future if you want to try things after time and maybe counseling then theres possibilities
2007-01-13 03:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Dr. Phils advice;
"Calling It Quits"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/23
"When Staying Together For The Kids Isn't Best"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/37
2007-01-13 02:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's not healthy to stay together in that case because you cannot be a good mother to your children if you have ill-feelings toward your husband.i'm sure fights are frequent and the kids will be affected no matter how much you are going to shield them from that.you cannot also impart good values to your kids because of how you feel towards the father.how can you tell your kids to respect their father inspite of the problems you have with him when all you want to do is poison him?it's a very basic value you have to teach your children,respect for their father because that is the will of God..teaching it now to them is impossible.i know because i'm going through the same situation now..if the situation has affected the kids already, i think it's a sign that we need to jump off from the troubled boat and save our kids from psychological and emotional hang ups in the future.
2007-01-13 06:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by sexy_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay if you can do it without being an A hole. By the sound of it you guys don't sound like the type that could do it. Just accept the fact your life is going to be one big drama after another, your child will live in a family living on the verge of poverty, and he will for sure have multiple half siblings.
2007-01-13 01:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its not good to stay just for the kids. Children can see right through their parents and if you aren't happy then they won't be. Kids always worry about their parents and they are just as stressed out as you are. It can create many problems for them in the long run. They may even resent you for staying in a bad situation. If its not good for you, its even worse for your kids. Leave and be happy, they will respect you for it later.
2007-01-13 01:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by winterblues 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think it is wise to stay in a relationship for the sake of the children.i was in that same situation a couple of years back .i wanted to make it work with my ex and stay for the sake of my kids.i have 2 beautiful girls and they thank me every day that i didn't stay with my ex.the children would be better off if the parents separated.
2007-01-13 03:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by cabambino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have stayed with the ex myself but she wanted to leave. My thing is if you put the time to have kids, you should stick it out. I was ready to stay with the evil one for the sake of my sons. I even asked her to stay the day she was ready to leave. I told her that I didn't love her but I wanted her to stay for the kids. Because they are the one who will pay for it in the long run.
2007-01-13 01:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Never stay together because of the child. If the marriage isn't working, then end it because the child will know and it could hurt her/him psychologically.
2007-01-13 01:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by Tara662 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no because its not good for you or the child....
2007-01-13 02:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋