This may be long as I will try to be brief.I am pretty much at my last resort with my marriage. This is my second marriage (hasnt even been a year yet) and we have a 5 month old baby and I have 3 children from a prior marriage. The issue is this: when we first met and up until the day we got married my husband openly seemed to love me, he was attentive, displayed love, affectionate, considerate, sexual, communicated and always put me first. WELL, since the day we were wed the sex completly stopped, we use to have sex up to 12 times a day and at least 4 days a week. However, since we were married it has been maybe once a month. All of the qualities that were there beforehand are absent and resentment and arguing becuase of the his drastic changes since we got married. He works a lot and puts work before the family, we rarely talk anymore,he does not care about the status of our relationship, he is the one who stopped making love and showing love andit hurts. i want it to work.
2007-01-12 17:41:51 · 8 answers · asked by Debbie V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know you or what you are going through but just from what you wrote I understand you are lonely but he loves you enough to take on your children from a previous marriage and you have another baby together. He is trying to provide for his family. When you have kids and your husband works hard sex once a month I don't believe would be to uncommon.
Try to get someone to babysit for you guys one night a month that he is off and go to dinner/movie or something. Plan another day for all of you to do something as a family. Unless you think there is some cheating going on, or he is mean to you all I think this is normal. I bet he loves you a bunch.
2007-01-12 17:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mary Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what he was doing before you came along. Was he living with someone else? Because this is what I think from a guy's POV. You do not go from sex 12 times a day (kinda wish you were mine!ha!ha!) to nothing just like that. It sounds like before you were married, you were the 'other woman'. Once he had you in the palm of his hand and you two were wed, then he went and found hisself another 'other woman'. I have known men who were like that. Had a friend once, married with a girlfriend on the side. His wife never did anything but sit at home. Him and his girlfriend went everywhere together. Partied, had sex at ponds, party spots in the woods, in his car, etc. Before long, his wife left him, and the girlfriend moved in. Things were good for a while, then she got pregnant. Not too long after that, she was sitting at home doing nothing, and he had another girlfriend riding around partying, etc. I hate it for you. Heartbreak hurts, and it sucks. Would you rather know, or not know? That is the question, I guess.
2007-01-12 18:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by Darryl L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to mention this but I think that there is a possibility that he is having an affair. Thats usually what stops the sex so drastically...........since he may be getting it elsewhere. I may be wrong.......but be more attentative as to where he goes and wether or not he is where he tells you he is.
Goodluck
2007-01-12 17:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about his change in behavior? Unfortunately, too many people end up doing this. They are romantic and intimate prior to marriage. Then after they get married, they seem to think "I already have it, what's the point in trying?"
2007-01-12 17:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is ur second marriage and u want it to work....I only no one who can help u.....Jesus is love, and loves you......all He wants is to help u in every area of ur life, will u make Him Lord of ur life today, all u have to do is ask Him to come into ur heart.....God bless you
2007-01-12 17:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 times a day, 4 times a wk. You wore him out.........
2007-01-12 18:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be rude....
He needs to grow up...
You need to tie your knees shut!!!
Look at the past
So you can learn for your future!!!
2007-01-12 17:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a therapist. If he will not go, go alone!
2007-01-12 17:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by gauchogirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋