I have been dating this guy for 8 mnths now and i can honestly say i have been the happiest i have ever been (except those small bumps in the road but mostly due to me) BUT i have definitly stopped going out more w/ my girl friends since last semester i was busy with work, bf (longest relationship i have ever had!), and first semester in business school. Now I have a new real job and need to do better this semester. They nag me for not going out and it makes me not want to be around them more. My roommate is also "needing" my attention and has caused us to fight lately. What should i do? I don't want to choose, but i also dont want to lose my friends. Its not like i'm purposely ditching them, i'm just tryin to finish school and get my life started and not be stuck in school forever and doing stupid **** like some of my friends are. Help me please, any advice will work!!!
2007-01-12 17:34:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friends are true friends and that's why they nag you about not hanging around with them a lot (or like u used to)! true friends like that are hard to find and you shouldn't lose them BUT that doesn't mean you have to drop your guy! balance ur time!! i know it's hard and all but if you could at least hang out with your friends once or twice a week and balance ur time it would be great!! but plz don't drop ur friends they are real friends!
2007-01-12 18:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember bumps are a 2 way street are your friends up set because u have totally cut them off true friends are hard to find they might not agree with what your doing but if they are true they will be there for you when needed remember the 3 best things in this world are love hugs and God if u have these u r indeed very lucky
2007-01-12 17:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
~~I feel bad for you ~~Sounds like your friends are not being
"good friends"~ Of course, your not ditching them~But you have
~to be true to yourself~~Maybe your pulling away in another direction~~they are not ready for in their lives~~And they probably miss spending time with you~~Maybe even a little jealous of your wavering attn off of them~~But what are you going to do? Live your life to please them? What do you want to do ~~I don't think It has to be one way or the other~~
~~Maybe, If you just found some quality time alone with just you & your friends and explain to them nicely about everything~
~~Just the way you told us ~~The pressures from your new job while going to school with higher expectations ~~and that this relationship is important to you, as well,
~~That you guys won't be spending as much time with each other~~And then point out the other things that are important in their life~activities ~~, etc...Just try to work it out~But most importantly~~Feel confident about not caving in to their every whim~~If you have other plans ~~They have to respect this new
~important thing in your life~~whether it be a man or whatever~~
You will have to teach them by remaining firm~~You can do it!
~~It's for you ~~No One can stand up for you, the way you can~
~You're the only one that can do this~~Just do it with a gentleness~~So, as not to truly hurt their feelings~~
~~Sad to say, but one of them may not (there's always one)
~~~ ~be able to tolerate this~so then you have to once again say to yourself, " What do I want here?." These friends are not always going to the most important thing in my life~That may be hard for you to hear ~~This is called growing pains~which
~~usually means there will be some discomfort along the way~
Best wishes~~
~~Your true friends will understand and love you anyway ~~
They will want you to successful~~It may take them some time.
2007-01-12 18:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by chvwkn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have outgrown your friends and are growing up. Don't let their bugging bug you. Study hard, enjoy your bf and move on with your life. You can remember your friends with a cards on their birthday or when you are attend parties that they attend.
2007-01-12 18:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up on your friends, trust me been there ,done that,it only makes the man more dependent on you,don't give up youre life outside of your relationship,big no no,but don't let your friends be the reason if you and that man brake up.finish school,get you'r education on girl don't let that happen.
2007-01-12 17:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by sassie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
better not choose just one among the two...you need to balance your time...try to have time management...explain to both parties that you need to do this first or that...i guess they'll understand you.
2007-01-12 17:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey try n balance it out n u'll never go wrong.this happens with me n my buddies also but i play a smart game n balance it out
2007-01-12 17:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you and this guy having sex? Bf! Not having sex? Friend!
2007-01-12 17:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
keep him .loose the bitches......
2007-01-12 17:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by TEBOE7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋