I am a very young female physician and I work endlessly. I am married to a great man that stays home with our kids. I love him, but I am sooo bored. I am very attracted to a man I work with; I don't want anything from him but a little fun. He is also married. My friends don't see anything wrong with this, but sometimes we live in a world quite different from everyone else's; go figure. Anyway - the situation is this; I have sent him some hot, steamy e-mails (being careful not to abuse our work e-mails) and he now knows that I sent them. He gives me all the right signals; long looks etc and when I asked him to meet me he did, but nothing really happened; he is hesitant because he is married. But, am I misreading him? Suggestions? Please don't scold; I don't need a lesson in morality or christianity.
2007-01-12 17:16:09 · 28 answers · asked by its Mrs. Dingleberry to you 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If nothing really happened,you should leave it there.
2007-01-12 17:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Gruya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said yourself that you have a great husband. Why in the world would you want to jeopardize that for a little "fun"? If your bored, have you tried to mix things up a little bit with your husband? Maybe devote some of the time your spending sending steamy emails to the other guy to finding a way to get your OWN husband hot and bothered. Do you think your husband is boring because he does nothing but stay home and watch the kids all day? Do you resent him for not working like you do? Ask yourself these questions BEFORE you stray from the marriage.I think you know that it is wrong and your looking for a way to justify it.No matter what your friends say, an affair is always wrong.If you don't want to be in a marriage then get a divorce. Good luck and I hope you make the right choices for you AND your family.
2007-01-13 01:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's hesitant because he's married. Oh yeah, you already said that. Well, maybe he's hesitant because he's married and took a vow. Or maybe he loves his wife and isn't interested.
If you honestly think there is nothing wrong with it, why don't you discuss it with your husband? If you were the one staying home with the kids and found out your husband was sending hot, steamy emails to a hot co-worker, would you think there was nothing wrong with it? Put yourself in your husband's shoes for a minute.
What is wrong with a quiet affair? There are way too many reasons to list. You say you don't need a lesson in morality, but apparently you do if you're considering a 'quiet affair'. An affair is an affair, quiet, loud, long, short. NO matter what kind of an affair it is, it's an affair and it's wrong. Sorry.
2007-01-13 01:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm Hello? Is there anyone home? I see the light is on.....
Being the woman who is married to a man who had an affair, I can say that you're being a selfish *****. I can also tell you how much affairs hurt everyone involved, including your children. WE ALWAYS FIND OUT.
That being said. If you are "BORED" perhaps you should try to shake things up at home instead of going after a colleague. A mature person would do this and a mature person would examine her motivation behind why she wants to have an affair. Figure it out, you're a doctor, ffs. I'm just a CSR with a bad attitude. LOL
2007-01-13 01:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by Linda v 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying, Dont Sh&& where you eat, if you decide to do this it will be very bad in the work place over time, and also if its fine for a while in time it will be over and then thats when it becomes unconfortable and un easy at work, may effect your work habits. Im all for a quiet affair been there, but as long as the other dont work with you and that everything is put on the table to make sure both know the rules and boundries. Morally its wrong, but i dont judge anyone, due to different circumstances in relationships.
2007-01-13 10:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you're really looking for is people to tell you it's ok. I'm truly surprised that you are a physician as I assumed this would indicate you were fairly bright but you proved that theory wrong. Cheating is selfish self centered behaviour and to proposition a married man clearly makes you a whore. I hope your children get their morals and values from their father as you are void in this dept. If you go ahead, I hope the pain & tears on your husbands and childrens faces are worth your pleasure. Bored people are boring people.
2007-01-13 01:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me back in the day when my High School teachers had an affair. Don't you just love the occupational hazards?
You're not misreading him, he's hesitant of course. He needs time to think it over. He's probably weighing his options of whether or not he wants to join you in a home wrecking fiasco.
If you have a wandering eye, it's only a matter of time that you'll have an affair. So don't worry if it doesn't work out. You're sure to find someone else.
2007-01-13 01:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you sure have your priorities all mixed up.You said that you didn't want to abuse the email at work but you don't have a problem screwing around on your husband.Why did you marry him to begin with if he was so boring.Think about him and most importantly think about your kids.Get caught and it all could go away,then you and office boy can be bored together.My suggestion is take up a hobby and forget about the guy.
2007-01-13 01:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I have a suggestion. It's called get a divorce. I have been married for close to 6 years. If the other woman involved finds out. Depending on how sane she is. It could be the last of you. I would think seriously hard before looking for greener pastures. Think about what you would be giving up, that is when you get caught.
2007-01-13 01:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only are You going to Cheat on Your Husband.
Youre going to Cheat on Your whole Family.
Your Kids.
Some example Youre giving them.
The reasons women cheat vary considerably. Some get involved in extramarital affairs because they are lonely, others because they want to escape the monotony of marriage. Still others are motivated to cheat as a form of revenge after they find lipstick or other tell-tale signs of their husbands' infidelity.
Then there are the SELFISH, character-flawed women who marry good men, who love and take care of them, but continue to consort with other men for sexual excitement or for the money and other material goods these men can provide.
2007-01-13 01:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by RR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You asked a simple question and I will give you a simple
answer , the thing that is wrong with a quiet affair is just
that it's wrong, why becasue of M A R R I A G E.
2007-01-13 11:50:04 · answer #11 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋