I have led a very sheltered life. My mom tried her best to yield me from all the bad in the world. But as an adult I was dumbfounded when I realized that rascism toward gays, blacks & all other ethnic groups is not just something you see in the movies. I now have a teenager who knows more at her age than I did when I was 25, but do you think that's a good thing? Do those of you who have kids try & keep the bad out or do you tell them the way the world really is?
2007-01-12 17:12:52 · 14 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Things are different now than when you were younger. Now kids are exposed to things much earlier(thanks to the Internet), grow up and look older earlier(due to nutrition), and are exposed to hatred and so forth. It is not necessarily a bad thing because you can't stay sheltered forever, you have to grow up eventually and realize the world can be a cruel place at times and great at other times. Just try to be the best parent you can be and you and your kid should be just fine. =)
2007-01-12 17:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Alex Awesome Valentine, Esq. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some amount of sheltering is a good thing. But then a kid reaches a certain age and they have to go to school, and they will be dealing with people from other cultures and backgrounds at school, and then they'll learn that not everything is sugar-coated and pretty.
I suppose it would be a good idea for parents to teach their children that there is racism and prejudice out there and then teach their kids that it's Not Nice.
maybe some instructional videos could help if there was such a thing as instructional videos to teaching how to protect against racism and prejudice. Is there?
2007-01-12 17:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion,I don't think living sheltered is a good thing.Most of the time when your sheltered you don't know how the world really is.So you think that what you hear first is the right thing.(About blacks,Gay's,ect)You don't really know what to believe because you have always been told what to believe.
This is not true for all people who live a sheltered life.I was like that when I was younger.My mom always told me what to think and never let me do certain things (listen to rap,hip-hop,rock,ect.music). Now that I've seen how life really is,I know what's wrong and what's right.And I didn't fall into the cracks and believe what other people told me.
2007-01-12 17:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by WWE Girl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
One of the overwhelming joys of parenting is having to learn the balance between whats good and whats bad for your kids. Do we want to keep them outta harms way- and make sure no evil befalls them.. absolutely. Will this do them any good--- more then likely not. Kid's need exposure to whats good and bad in the world. Sometimes, the real world just leaks in (like death) and you just need to learn to explain it in 'kids speak'- the real problem is teaching them how to deal with the situations correctly and maturely even when it seems the dilema may be over their head.
2007-01-12 17:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by joan c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's horrible to shelter your kids. They won't and don't live in Happyland. They live in the real world and need to be prepared to deal with that. Being sure not to expose your child to age-inappropriate material is NOT, however, sheltering. Kids do have to learn about these things when they are capable of understanding them.
2007-01-12 17:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. Sheltering a child could have a negative effect on them in their adulthood. It results in ignorance and can lead to the "child" to becoming overly timid or out of control in certain situations. It can also make that "child" grow up and ask silly questions to people who are different. For instance, I'm tired of hearing the "is it true that Black people..." questions at work. I clench my teeth every time.
It's actually better to tell them what life's really about and instill values in them that they will be able to use when meeting new people and are faced with unique situations.
2007-01-12 17:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by jussagirl 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
definite, you stay a sheltered existence. Your dad and mom ought to offer you a touch better freedom for my section. i understand a lady that changed into treated the same as you. The evening earlier her 18th birthday she crawled out her bedroom window and took off such as her bf to Florida. She did not go back homestead for 3 years. i changed into acquaintances such as her little sister. Her dad and mom were very sorry and gave my chum (the lil sis) better freedom in concern that she might want to sense and do the same.
2016-12-02 04:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't reverse the way your mother has raised you.The good thing is that you are not sheltered anymore.You can only shelter someone for so long,so parents should educate their kids instead of shielding them from the inevitable.
2007-01-12 20:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by Celebrity girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I tell my kids the way it is and that way they are prepared for the worst should they encounter. I seen sheltered people, and it is very devasting sometime. For example: I have a friend whose daughter-in-law doesn't know how to cook, do laundry, clean, NONE..I think that's depriving your child of independence. So, my friend has been busy teaching her how to care for her grandchildren, and husband, the house..how to run errands..and she is 27 years old. That's plain ol'dumb.
2007-01-12 17:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by jcsas_2000 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, don't keep the "bad" out. Life is life...good and bad. You have to be prepared for both. You cannot go through life with your head in the sand. Not healthy.
2007-01-12 17:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋