Being insulted by how you dress?

Question

Just to clear the air, I'm a guy, 19 y/o.

I just got off the train, and I noticed this group of kids, possibly a year or two younger than me. I started walking away, and all of the sudden, I hear them making a comment about how I dress. Don't get me wrong, it's not like I dress like super goth, but just "not the norm", but still subtle. Someone from that group kept yelling out the same insult over and over. Now, I could have went back there and confronted the person, but it wasn't worth it. I could have, granted I'm not the most intimidating person when it comes to 1 VS a group of people, but I COULD have. Now, I'm just filled with anger. Why would random people insult me by how I dress when the area is filled with possibly hundreds more people who are more different?

How am I supposed to deal with things like these? So I'm different. How am I supposed to react when someone ignorant is making fun of me? I'd get into a fight, but that'll only make me look dumber. What do I do?

To Phoenix, no, I'm not trying to find out who I am by how I'm dressing. I'm not 12, I'm over that stage of "rebelling" and finding myself through acting out and dressing differently. I am who I am, and trust me, I wear what I wear because I like it. Sorry but **** you for not even considering the fact that I like dressing this way. Me being young or 19 has nothing to do with me dressing the way I do. Hell, I know people 30 and older that dresses way more complicated than I do. I was just wearing black pants, boots, and a biker jacket, is that so goth to you? If I wanted to dress goth, I'd be wearing straight jackets with chains, straps, mesh clothes, with make up, etc. etc. I do NOT dress that way. Thank you.

Answer 1

The real is not subject to insult! There have always been, and there always will be people who try to fill or cover up their own emptiness by commenting about other people, but that is not something to get worked up about, they are rather to be pitied or to be ignored, and their bickering is not really the issue here. But if you feel insulted, i.e. if you are susceptible to hurt on account of other peoples' perception of your outward appearance, you should ask yourself whether you are insulting your own self, i.e. your inborn human dignity, by the way you want to appear. Are you dressing up in order to make sure everybody notices you are different (perhaps 'not as common' as they, which really means 'better' than them)? You don't have to feel insecure about your individuality, the Creator of the Universe - or if you don't believe there is one, you may call it nature (whatever that is) - has never even once repeated Himself/itself in the shaping of a snow crystal, or a sand grain, let alone the complex structure of a living organism. Try to find out who you really are, then your dressing will fall in its place automatically and won't cause you any more embarrasment.

Answer 2

The world is full of jerks. You have right to dress any way you wish. My son, and his friends have been known to wear kilts. Yep, the thing from Ireland and Scotland. They don't care what the jerks say. It is all part of being who you wish to be. You wish to be a good person that dresses differently. They wish to be jerks. When I was a young teen, I once wore an ugly wig around town for the fun of it. I got a lot of laughs and a few "Is that your hair?", type questions. Most people just got the joke and laughed. So, just be who you are and the hell with them. And you did the right thing by walking away. Those in the group that are good people just lost respect for those that were jerks. And they gained respect for you.

Charlie's Dad. That's me! (Your avatar looks like my Charlie.)

Answer 3

First off, I know how you feel, when you know you could have said this or should have done that.... that's life, I bet this is not the first time and it will not be the last......

Now, ...not everyone is going to like you no matter how you dress or who you are. Doesn't matter, there will ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS be people who look down at you, look sideways at you, and look UP to you! So really, it happens and yes, it's natural to be a littled ticked, but let it go, think of the people who are your friends and don't worry about people who are not - even when they are random. Not worth your time. Call a friend or a parent or someone who loves you. And if you don't have one... don't worry, I wouldn't judge someone how they dress, even if its goth, punk, geeky, hippie whatever... not all random people are arseholes!

Answer 4

1. Get over it.
2. A lot of people are shallow,and can't mind their own business.You were probably just special to them.
3. Always be prepared for insults because people love to do them.
4.Ignoring is a good way to go,and don't be so sensitive to things like that.

Answer 5

i;d keep reminding myself that these idiots are dumb enough to try to pick a fight withsomeone for all they know
is
armed:
knows kungfu,
insane

or all of the above.

How dumb is it to try to pick a fight in those circumstances.

so, their brains verses a clothing choice?

had it been me I'd of just ignored it and kept going, knowing that I have more brains..

and from the other side,
even If I see someone dressed like the kiss band members walking down the street glowing pink,
I'd mind my buisness,
I don't know
why they are dressed that ,
if theres a good reason,
or if they are just nutz.

as long as its not harming me, ( on fire, exuding gasses of some kind)
or exposing themselves,
what do I care what you are wearing.

Answer 6

Stop wearing goth clothes. Goth type clothing is a lame attempt to either garner attention or "find yourself" or both. All you are really doing is showing how insecure you are. People will pick on insecure people because they are an easy target. Here, you wear blatantly inflammatory clothing and then have a problem with people noticing and negatively reacting to your clothing. That doesn't exactly make much sense. What other message could you be sending with these clothes but a negative one?

Stop trying to figure out who you are as an individual by wearing certain clothing. You're putting on a false persona. You don't need to associate with this "rebel" group to be different.

Answer 7

Be who you are..don't let the ignorance of others get to you. It takes a man to walk away from ignorancy. Especially from group of immature idiots, that's all they are. I like to be different for my age, I am just plain different in my way.

We have angels with us everyday, tell your angels to help you through this anger and let them take care of the problem for you. Now!! Say it loud and mean it, then let it go.. U can even tell them how you feel... They are there for you.. do it now..

Answer 8

That is really stupid and immature of them. Who cares how you dress... you just do whatever you want, and that should be all that matters, but some people are jerks. I would just ignore them but that's easier said than done. Maybe you could say politely but sternly "What do you care?". Don't fight, because that will make them feel good like they have power over you and reinforce sterotypes.

Answer 9

i've always been "different" because of the way i choose to dress. and have gotten made fun of, you have to learn how to let it roll off your back. it was very hard when i was younger and couldn't understand why people couldn't accept me for who i was and judged me by how i dressed.
people are just stupid and close minded and there isn't anything we can do about it except walk away. and realize that they are small and insecure. be the bigger person and just keep walking away.

Answer 10

Unfortunately when you dress out of the norm this will happen. I do not condone people making comments out loud. But you are judged by the way you dress. Its not my rule, its just the way it is.