Is it so horrible to be a virgin and 18??it's not that i'm trying to be a nun it's just when males ask their shocked i haven't had sex then they tend to put me down for being a virgin and bragging about their sexual experiences i try not to cave into peer pressure of sex and i don't think i'm really interested at this age because i want to focus on me and going through college and i'm still very young but it seems like i'm wrong and sometimes i feel left out of everything for still being a virgin...is it normal to feel this way i tend to push guys away because i'm not ready for sex so much i almost tried it but backed out 3 times before anything happened it just felt wrong...if your a virgin male or female do you feel this way??or even non virgins what are your views on people who chose to stay virgins until they meet the right one or marriage??
2007-01-12 17:00:34 · 12 answers · asked by USAF1 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i'm not waiting for marriage just for the right guy and i feel more for that guy in a sexual way
2007-01-12 17:06:31 · update #1
and it's not all males guys who are a couple of years older yea i expect guys my age to want sex you know everyone wants to do it but at their own pace and time
2007-01-12 17:09:13 · update #2
I honestly don't believe in the whole "wait until marriage" thing because the divorce rate is 50% in the United States. You could be saving yourself for someone who turns out be be a total jerk.
If you're not ready then you're not ready. It's not a big deal, it's a personal choice. I abstain from alcohol (I'm 18 too) and will continue to do so when I'm of legal age and people have a problem with that.
2007-01-12 17:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Males tell you this? That needs to tell you something right there. I am a man and I remember how I thought when I was young. I do not believe in peer pressure, but peer attraction. So, if you be your own person and have your first sexual relationship on your own terms, what business is that of anyone else. Boys that age only have a few things on their minds and sex is the most prominent of their thoughts.
2007-01-12 17:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think its weird, im 17 and a virgin, and I really dont feel bad or good or anything about it, its just what I am and Im not proud but Im not embarrassed, Im just me. Its fine Alot of people I know are virgins and Im from dallas the big city where you expect people to be fast and easy but we arent. I dont think you should try to have sex till you are ready not just to get it over with. Im sure most of those are virgins too they just dont want to admit it, they think its wrong but its not wrong or right its just a state of not having sex,thats all it is.
2007-01-14 06:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know...that is VERY respectable. You will be happy you did keep your virginity until marriage and or the right guy comes along. There is no rush...believe me...once you do it you cannot take it back. Definitely not horrible. That is so cool I think. You will have that something special to share with that really special someone and you will know it is right when it happens. God bless!
2007-01-12 17:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Marriedtothearmy 2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that there is anything wrong with you saving your self for the right person. when you have sex with someone then you should be in love with that person. I think that if it were me and I wanted to wait until I was married, which is the right thing to do then you do this. Dont be pushed in doing something that you will regret later.
2007-01-12 17:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 15:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by hutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me congratulate you for being virgin and to be virgin till marriage!
No it is not BAD at all, on the other hand its a good and pious thing one can do in this world of decreasing moral values. It is easy for one to loose one's virginity. But it is very difficult and a valuable thing to be a virgin.
It is not a easy thing to control our emotions and habits like, sex, drinking, smoking etc.. One becomes a Perfect human being, only when he/she controls the emotions.
So, all the very best to keep your virginty..... Good luck!
One more.. thing..
There are guys who want their life partner to be virgin and who keeps the same.
2007-01-12 17:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by den 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey im still a virgin but im not 18 in 15.. but i dont want to have sex. I would feel horrible if i did i wouldnt feel right with jesus. Peer pressure is hard but you shouldnt do something that you dont feel is right or something that you dont want to do just because you feel left out or you want to fit in.
You dont have to be like them other girls going around from guy to guy.. have more respect for yourself and know that just because you havent has sex and your 18 dont mean your not normal it just means that you follow your heart and you do the right things.
Guys probally are sitting their bragging on their sexual experinces with other girls but you dont have to be like them. You dont want your first time to be talked about do you. Like you said guys tell you about their sexual experinces with other girls. If they tell you about other girls wouldnt you think that if you gave it up to him he would tell other girls about sexual experinces and who knows he may even tell other girls about/if you had sex with him.
Dont give up something so vauleable respect yourself and be good to yourself...FOLLOW YOUR HEART
Best of luck and love.
Regina Back
2007-01-12 17:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with waiting for that special someone. Smart move. Sex is not for fun. It is an act of love and should be saved for marrage. Too many think with what's in between their legs.
2007-01-12 17:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course its not horrible. you have to do what feels right for you, and it sounds like you are a strong person who respects herself and knows how to set boundaries, goals, etc. that is something that you should be proud of, but not everyone will understand that because they don't have that same approach to life.
keep strong and make decisions that you are right for you. people who are mean and spiteful, can always find something to make fun of people for or cut them down about - so as long as you are true to yourself, you will be most satisfied. best of luck.
2007-01-12 17:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋