Lately I've been a bit jealous of my husband because I noticed him laughing with another woman at a party. She was the hostess but every time she would think of a game to play, a gift to distribute, walk by my husband or start a conversation, they both would have these uncontrollable smiles and laughter on their faces as if they did something wrong. She was also missing a lot when I and the other girls sat in a circle having a conversation about our kids and families and work. This was the first time we met face to face but my husband did mention her in the past few years as the "crazy woman" who works out with him at the gym. Next day I brought it up to my husbands attention, but he said there is nothing to worry about, because I am much more beautiful. I explained to him that people just don't laugh like this unless they know each other well. The woman seems sort of conservative, nice and hard working person, but she is a single mother, which means she is available and looking
2007-01-12 16:59:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, its not exactly the best of pictures u've painted by far, flirtatious giggling, the fact that they work out together.. it doesnt necessarily mean that he's cheating on u although i totally understand ur worry as i go through the same things at time, but the fact remains that only u know ur husband, u know how he is with u, u know his character, do u really think that he could do something so horrible as to risk u and ur family over another woman? Perhaps u should offer to go to the gym with him sometime.. if he freaks out about it, and doesnt seem to want to have u there with him, then id definately worry, but if he jumps at the thought of u going with him, then id be pretty confident that he's not hiding anything..
You cant tell me that u dont get an ego trip when a guy flirts with u.. what makes u think that he wouldnt either???? of course he's going to eat it up ..everyone does from time to time.. but it all depends on who ur husband is as far as if he 1. loves u 2. is a man that owns up to his marriage vows 3. Has he ever given u a reason to believe he'd cheat on u??
He is the one ultimately responsible for his actions, she cant steal anything that doesnt want to be stolen.. he's the one that took the marriage vow.. so feel it out a bit, but if u find nothing to be there, then stop torturing yourself with "what ifs" and believe in the man u married, if he's going to cheat, theres not a damn thing u'll be able to do to stop it..so have faith , and hope he is the man u think u married..
Good luck i really hope that he is a "real man" and will always do what is right..
2007-01-12 17:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, your are the only one your husband should "be flirty" with. I have noticed that some men are clueless about the motives of women. I tell my husband all the time that women are sneaky and he should be careful about how he reacts to them. It has taken him several years and a few times of proving me right, but now he finally see it.
Talk to him again and tell him that you feel his behavior is inappropriate and that it makes you uncomfortable.
It is very possible that your husband is Innocent and just thinks she's being nice. On the other hand everyone likes attention, and it may just feed his ego a little.
Good Luck!
2007-01-13 01:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like something I would find myself becoming insecure about. your within normal range to be questioning your husbands relationship with this woman.
Keeping in mind,-
Beauty will not keep a cheater from cheating.
A "single Mom" is no more a threat to a marriage, than oul be the "Unhappily Married Woman"
Join the gym, see if they act like more than just friends, in a public setting.
Good Luck to you & your marriage.
2007-01-13 03:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so hard......cause it sounds like you are following your gut feeling.....which you usually have those for a reason. Maybe just try to get cell phone records, maybe lunch receipts, why is he working out at the gym with her and not you? I don't know what to tell you. But follow your instincts. If it looks and feels unusual....and if it is bothering you.....you need to deal with it. Of course he's going to say don't worry. Why would he say anything else! I had gut feelings with my ex- and that is why he is my ex!
2007-01-13 01:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by ♥2323vsb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not normally jealous by nature, I'd say it's your woman's intuition working. You know what your husband likes. Is she his type or not? Go with your gut feeling. Maybe it's harmless, maybe not. But definitely don't let it drive you crazy.
2007-01-13 01:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have a nice husband. Just love him even more, so it will be very easy for him to resist any affair.
2007-01-13 01:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh, thats a tough one... You still gotta trust him, until he gives you reason to do otherwise...but you have a right to ask about it. Lady from the gym??? that sounds a bit out there...tough...
2007-01-17 06:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by mrs. mommy to be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very typical answers from him...I would go with your gutt instinct a womans gutt will tell her the truth.
2007-01-13 01:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Debbie V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her being a single mother doesn't necessarily mean she is looking, that's your insecurities talking. besides, if you don't trust your husband you WILL drive him to have an affair.
2007-01-13 01:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by prettyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds normal to me
2007-01-17 12:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by Domino's Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋