now she stands stubborn by the boys side. i want to break her confidence level and bring her back. although she is matured she has selected a wrong person. now she acts acccording to the boy's words. suggest any strategic plan both legally and......
2007-01-12 16:09:42 · 25 answers · asked by babu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are really lucky that at least your daughter realized her mistake in time there are many who realize only they already have kids from such wrong decision. These innocent girls get eluded by the styles of these guys who are good for nothing making fool of girls usually on net chatting , misguiding them against the parents, getting them to leave their houses & ultimately enjoy or rather I should call it molest these girls sexually & then leave them to suffer. Its really sorry state of affair that there is no law against these rascals in India. If you file complaint against them for cheating under the Indian Penal Code they will agree to marry these girls & that will be worst for these girls as for throwing them out of the life these girls will be more difficult. The best course for these rascals is to break their bones & make the physically disabled & disfigured for life so they may not attempt to play with another girl in future. As far as your case is concerned best will be to bring your daughter home by making some excuse , make her understand the mistake she has made & tell this guy to simply leave her alone once for ever. If your daughter herself tell him to go away it will be best for all as it is she who took this wrong step in her innocence but now realizing her mistake she is the best person to tell this guy to go away from her life. If you say such thing your daughter will think that it’s you not interested in him rather then her. I don’t feel taking any legal action against such a rascal will help you rather it will be more embarrassing situation for your daughter if the case comes up in any court of law.
2007-01-12 17:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll probably get an email for this but if your daughter is married then I'm not sure you COULD or SHOULD do anything. You daughter is obviously old enough to marry or she found a way to get a lie past the courts. If she is old enough to make this type of decision then I'm afraid that you have to wait until this bus runs out of gas. You now have to make a decision as to whether you will still not only love your daughter through what you think is a mistake but be there for her when she needs you. Please don't allow her to use you or be disrespectful but let her know that you still love her unconditionally. As most spontaneous marriages go it should end in about a few months (at least spiritually). If it lasts longer than a year or two without severe problems then count me wrong and you blessed.
2007-01-12 16:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is under 18, you might be able to file a missing person report, file charges for statutory rape. Not sure in what state you are, try and talk to a lawyer or the police, child services, maybe? I am not sure why you would need to break your child's confidence. Do you need to be that controlling and do her further damage so she will try to run away with every man that comes along, just to get away from you?
Try this. Let her know you will be there for her , JUDGEMENT FREE when and if things go badly for her, no "I told you so" nothing like that. If you love your daughter,let her make her own mistakes. You have to be there for her, no matter what, with love tolerance and understanding, give her wings to fly, do not shoot her down. Control guilt or fear are negative and will never work in the long run.
2007-01-12 16:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 03:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is legally of age, then there is obviously nothing you can do.
I will tell you, that the more you fight and tell her you think she is with the wrong guy, the more she will love him. It's a messed up dynamic but that's usually what happens.
My advice? Act like you are so happy for her. Invite them over for Sunday dinner. Tell her how happy you are in her choice to marry this young man. Before you know it, SHE will open her eyes on HER OWN and believe me, things will change.
This tactic worked great with my daughter. She just loved this guy so much. My husband and I coudn't stand him. After awhile they broke up, then got back together. The second time around, my whole tune changed. I told her how great he was, blah blah, and she ended up dumping him two weeks later.
It's called reverse psychology and believe me it works.
Good luck.
2007-01-12 16:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she an adult (18 or over?). If so, there's not a whole lot you can do about it. Trying to force her to do what *you* want will only push her farther away. It could be a bigger mistake than letting her go and letting her find out if he is the wrong guy for her. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. It can't be easy.
2007-01-12 16:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mama to 4 wanting more 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me you need to seriously back off or else you're going to end up losing your daughter all together.
If your daughter is matured, then she needs to realize on her own that the man she eloped with is wrong for her, you telling her otherwise is just pushing them together even stronger.
Maybe what you need to do is start backing off, show your daughter you still love her and will be there for her, but let her know nicely that you do not support her relationship and explain why, then leave it at that.
But what really scares me is the fact that you would want to break your daughter's confidence to "bring her back", that makes you sound like an overbearing mother who refuses to let her daughter grow up.
2007-01-12 16:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by !?! 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think this, if you are upsest by this, it will drive her even closer to this boy/man I think maybe instead of being upset about this for yourself you should learn more about him, maybe he is not such a bad person and maybe you might just like him after all, but don't tell your daughter your upset about this.
Your dusghter must love him to have married him.
Be close to your children and don't disapprove what they do when it comes to love, all lessons are learned as long as others don't get involved or try to bail them out of something that THEY think may be wrong for that person
2007-01-12 16:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be. And wish them both well. Human relationship at the best of times, isn't all smooth sailing. So for crying out loud, don't rock their boat, offer them the maximum of support and minimum of hindrance. Her running away should not be taken as an affront. Good luck Mum and daughter !
2007-01-12 18:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is an adult. BACK OFF!!! If it does work out with her new husband you risk the chance at making them both mad at you and if you ever want to have anything to do with any kids they may have I would back off. If you think she is making a mistake and that it will not last again just be nice and get ready to have her back. But if she does come back don't rub it in. I leave you with a quote,
For those who understand, no explanation is necessary. For those who don't,
no explanation will suffice
2007-01-12 16:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋