I've been with my live in boyfriend for 6 yrs and he hasn't asked me to marry him. I am paying $1300 a month in expenses and I'm in Arizona living with him. He talks about having kids but we have no communication and we don't even sleep in the same room anymore. He keeps alot of thing secret ...I think he has people watching me because he knows every move I make, but I'm not allowed to ask any questions about his whereabouts etc
2007-01-12 16:04:56 · 24 answers · asked by Jennifer W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
now why would u wanna marry a man like that? seems to me like u have already made up your mind and its just a metter of u doing what u know now.
2007-01-12 16:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To go!
6 years, you have wasted enough time knowing this fella already. Dont waste more of your time... you have given him enough time and chances already.
Being in a relationship, is like 2-in-1 kinda feeling. If its only a 1-sided reaction, its tiring and the way you mentioned about him knowing your whereabouts sounds like a weirdo! Since you cant even ask anything about it, seems like he doesnt even know he's in a relationship at all. It seems like he's living in his own world and not able to live with someone at all. This may sound bad, maybe he just need you to help on with the expenses...
Move on, gal... :)
2007-01-13 00:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand why you two are not sleeping in the same room together. i have been with my fiance for 6 years as well. we have been engaged 2 and 1/2 but thats not the point. it doesnt really matter to put a time on marriage especially if the relationship is not up to par. it sounds like you two are not communicating at all. do you think he would be willing to see a counselor with you? i really dont suggest bringing children into this relationship if you guys arent stable as is. that would only complicate things. i think i would need more details though to really judge the whole situation. like, do you guys spend much time together? and how do you get along? only you know what is in your heart. good luck
2007-01-13 00:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by notsurehere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO quick and DON'T look back, Lady!!!!!!!!
No communication is a problem. Don't stay with this guy!
Don't bring kids into this, breaking up with kids is alot harder! They get the "bad end" of it!
He's keeping secrets! Again, don't stay with this guy!
My Ex-beau did that also and it's deceitful!
You're not allowed to ask questions and you live together?
He's an IDIOT! "What's good for the GOOSE, is good for the GANDER!!!
He's expecting too much of you, and there's no give and take, except he's TAKING bcuz you're paying the rent and he's acting like "head of household!"
DITCH him and find someone who appreciates and loves you! Get out while your single! It's easier now!
Don't hesitate!
2007-01-13 00:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now!
If you don't talk and sleep in separate rooms - there is a problem. The thing about you thinking he has people watching you makes me scared for your safety. If I were you, I would leave... do you have friends or family there to help you? If so, I would talk to them. He sounds very controlling and possessive and those are not good qualities to have in a mate.
2007-01-13 00:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by michellecdnd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT, GET OUT, GET OUT!!
How on earth can you even consider having kids with someone like that.
He's leading you on by a 'fine, thin' string dearie..
He's got it made with you and he knows it, so why would he want to lose a 'good thing' that he gets great reward from!!
I wouldn't trust him no further than I could throw him, and that means 'zilch', Nadda', None.
When a woman isn't allowed to ask any questions it's 'proof
positive' that the guy is a 'Controller'.
PLEASE get away and make a new life for yourself, and enjoy the happiness you deserve..
2007-01-13 01:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless he works for the CIA, the FBI, the Israeli MOSSAD, or any covert agency that keeps the world safe, Or, let's say has a secret identity (Superman, Spider-man, Batman), He has NO RIGHT to behave like this. No right at all. It's ridiculous, and you are paying HIS KEEP? Sad. Very Very sad... Get yourself out, and let it be the last move he ever watches you do.
2007-01-13 00:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is it really necessary to ask that question? get the hell away from the manipulator as fast as you can and get a real man in your life...... one that appreciates you and will talk with you and be in a physical relationship with you that works. why hang with a loser when there are lots of decent loving guys out there who appreciate a good relationship and really try at making it work everyday. get out now and avoid the expensive and abusive departure later.
2007-01-13 00:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by doc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you in a soap opera? no marriage after how long? come on now you should know better, if you're not in the same room even are you dating or are you room mates? i say room mates. get out there and find real happiness with someone who can step up to the plate.
2007-01-13 00:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this relationship now! You answered your own question when you said you don't even sleep in the same room anymore. "Do you stay or go" For what it's worth baby, you have already gone!!!!
2007-01-13 00:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by WOMAN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋