my dad left my mom completely unexpected. their marriage was doing better than it has in the past... but then he said that he hasn't loved her for about 10 years. he said that he has a girlfriend but hasn't done anything with her yet. me, my sister and my mom are heartbroken and he won't even try marriage counseling with my mom. that's all that me and my sister asked from him but he still one. he says that he has been happier than ever now that he left us, but yet he still says me and my sister are the most important things to him. i know that he still has feelings for my mom or else he wouldn't of cried when he told me what he did. he asked his friends if counseling worked and they all said no so he decided it wouldn't work, even though my sister was suicidal and she went and it helped. i just dont' know how to convince him to go. he said he's been thinking about but he could be lying like the past 10 years. how should i convince him to go?
2007-01-12 15:56:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can't ..he has to go for himself....
2007-01-12 16:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant convince someone to get help. I know its sad and upsetting to hear but your dad doesnt want to go not because he "heard it wont help" but because he truly does not want to go. Your father has no interest in salvaging the marriage, if he did, if he truly thought he could be happy with your mother he would do anything it takes to make it work. But it doesnt seem that way. You and your sister cant blame yourselves, relationships just dont always work. I'm truly sorry but you need to believe your dad when he says hes happier now. The crying may have come from his realization that hes dumping a bond of over ten years, not because hes loves her. You should focus your attentions on your mom, she will need you the most through this difficult time, not your father.
2007-01-13 00:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is gone and there is nothing to do but to move on. Prayer for strength for you and your mother. This happens so much. It is so likely for him to want to feed his ego and want to still have relationships with your mother. He is not thinking of her, just his ego. The best thing is for you and your mother to move on and do not let him play mind games with you and your mother. Your mother is grieving as you are over the loss of your family. It is as though your family has died and you must morn your loss. If you allow your father to come in and out of your lives, you will go crazy and his ego will be filled. Do not let him hurt you or your mother any more. Please.
2007-01-13 00:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with him for support..make the appointment yourself.
I don't think your Dad left you , he left your mom allot of kids think their parents leave them when the truth of the matter is they left their spouse.
Parents who love their children always love their children.
NO MATTER WHAT
2007-01-13 00:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋