im a 26 year old female and I can't have a healthy sex life with my boyfriend because intercourse causes me so much pain in my lower abdominal area. my boyfriend is very understanding but it frusterates him because he is a normal 25 year old male with a sex drive. I have been to several doctors and they can't seem to find anything wrong with me but sex hurts so bad. does anyone out there have any ideas of why it hurts me so bad?
2007-01-12 15:35:19 · 9 answers · asked by me 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
There are several causes that leap to mind, although I would think one of the doctors you saw would have identified one of these conditions:
You could have fibroid tumors, which could affect your uterus and ovaries. Depending on the size and location of the tumor(s), that could be one explanation for pain during sex.
You would likely be experiencing problems during your menstrual cycle if that were the case, but that is still one possibility.
Another possibility is a urinary tract or bladder infection. If it hurts to urinate (when you haven't had much water to drink), or your bladder doesn't empty completely when you do urinate, this could indicate infection although you're completely unaware of it otherwise.
These are just a few suggestions....another avenue to consider although this seems the most unlikely. Sometimes pain during sex has a psychological, rather than physiological cause. If you have conflicting emotions about your boyfriend, or if you feel guilty for having sex outside of marriage or you and he practice some form of sex that is disagreeable to you or conflicts with your values...then your body may be telling you what you refuse to hear from your soul. It doesn't seem likely, but if the doctors aren't finding a source, then I wouldn't rule this one out.
You should probably be tested for chlymadia and other common but obscure sexually transmitted diseases. If you and/or your boyfriend have had multiple partners, then contracting a STD is a distinct possibility. Unfortunately, many doctors don't automatically test for things like that, unless their patient is honest about their sexual activity and proactive enough to request such tests.
No one will be able to give you a definitive answer on-line, but maybe this will give you some different avenues to consider and more concise questions for your physician.
Wishing you the best!
2007-01-12 15:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem and trying to figure that out myself. I've done several reseaching and it links to different diagnosis such as PCOS, endometriosis and std's. I know that I do not have an std; therefore, i may have one of the two. When it does happen I tell my boyfriend to lower himself because it occurs when his angle is hurting me and it helps. Go and have a second opinion because sometimes the doc will always think that everything is normal. If you have insurance then ask for some testing to be done.
People say that sex isn't that important but I do believe that it has a major impact on your relationship. And it also affects on the way you feel about yourself and YOUR sex life. I hope things will be okay for you in the long run!
2007-01-12 23:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by curious_georgina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started to have sex at an early age and it never hurt me. In the past year or two, I have experience pain while having sex in the same area. I asked my gyn about it and she said that it is not uncommon for some girls to become sensitive over time - and its not uncommon for some girls to experience it all the time. The only thing I can recommend if you have seen you gyn's is to try different positions until you find one that cause the less pain/no pain..
2007-01-12 23:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to see another doctor. Try to find one highly recommended, one who is willing to figure out what's wrong. They put a man on the moon, they transplant organs and re-attach severed limbs. They should certainly be able to figure out what's causing you so much pain.
2007-01-12 23:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not to pry but is your partner very large. That could cause pain. Or if he is very long, if he bangs on your cervix it can cause pain. Take it slow. Oh and relax. Good luck
2007-01-12 23:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried then you can go to the doctors and tell them your problems
2007-01-12 23:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you fully aroused when he penetrates you? Are the two of you using lube? And have you tried other positions?
2007-01-12 23:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn over :0
2007-01-12 23:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by technicanb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do u have it like every day or two days fast that might b ur prop
2007-01-12 23:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by roxy_gurl_70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋