My friend doesn't want me to be this other girl's friends because they are both enemies. I need help it is urgent I only have till Tuesday the 16.♥♥♥♥♥
2007-01-12 15:32:06 · 17 answers · asked by snow shell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well it depends, i think the friend who is telling you to choose between the other and her isnt a true friend, a real friend would accept you have a different friend besides her.
that sounds confusing...
but its true
2007-01-12 15:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's really complicated and i know somewhat how you feel because unfortunately i was in a situation like that before. I don't think that you should have to chose between then your so called friend should not make you choose especially if she gave you a dead line. That is absolutely ridiculous. Obviously she is not thinking about how this is going to affect you. She is just thinking of herself. I think that she is making this your problem when really it is her problem because she can't get along with the other girl. You don't have to chose and you shouldn't. You should just simply tell her on Tuesday that you are not choosing between them. If she has a problem with this, you know that she doesn't care about you and obviously wasn't your friend to begin with. A good friend would not make you chose and she would at least try to be friends with the other girl for your sake. I hope that this is some help to you.
2007-01-12 15:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by xoohollisteroox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How close are you with these friends. Is it an equal friendship with you and both of these girls? If it is, then it's not fair for you to choose. You should tell your friend that you don't want to choose between them because your friends with both. If she is still mad at you for being the other girls friends, this means she's not a really good friend. The best thing you can do is confront this friend about it, if she's really your friend she'll understand that you cannot choose.
2007-01-12 15:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by beth3988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats a tough situation. Are there any other friends that would stick with u in the middle untill this ends? If you have been friends with both of them that means they werent enemies before. It will pass, wouldnt it?
Try to stay in the middle, not alone, but with a group of friends that are in the same situation. Dont try doing I'll be your friend to one and doing the same to the other. If they find out ur not going to have a friend.
Which one treats you better? which one is ur TRUE best friend? which one would u go for advice? Which one makes u feel better?
Ask tons of questions before choosing, if u have to
2007-01-12 15:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want to have both of them as friends then u should just tell u friend the one that wants u to choose that u want the other friend too and that u don't want to choose between them. if they are enemies then u go out with them separately and u problem will be solved.
2007-01-12 15:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, the girl that is telling you too make the choice is no friend at all. cause true friends never make you chose, you need too dump the girl that's telling you too chose . True friends will be friends with you anyway & be there for you always no matter what; true friends know you inside & out about everything . So if I was you I would tell the girl that"s making you chose too get lost & that you never want too talk too her again but thats me its your choice hun Good Luck!
2007-01-12 15:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe of you should get into that drama. You dated 2 ladies that are pals with one yet another. & the actual truth they are the jealous style. you'll finally end up breaking a friendship. & the actual incontrovertible truth that you won't be able to opt for one over the different. only bypass out with the single you only like the most, the single you observe your self with years from now. in the experience that your only going as a lot as now one in all them, you concepts to boot do not you'll only reason difficulty.
2016-10-30 23:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by bonanno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships and relationships come three ways:
1. I will be your friend/love you if....
2. I will be your friend/love you because....
3. I will be your friend/love you in spite of..... (the only true one)
You will have these types of choices all of your life. Don't let other people set your priorities for you.
2007-01-12 15:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be true to yourself and not allow others to decide who your friends are. Tell this friend who is making these demands on you that you are not going to get in the middle of their feud and stick to your guns.
Sometimes jealousy can ruin a lot of friendships so do not allow her to meddle in this. Good luck!
2007-01-12 15:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her simply that you care about them both, and you would like to be able to maintain a friendship with them both, but their feud is not your problem, and you're not going to end a friendship with your other friend just because SHE demands it, and you won't end your friendship with her because the other girl demands it. Tell her if she wants to end her friendship with you, that you're sorry she feels that way, but that's her problem, now, and you're not going to give in to childish nonsense.
2007-01-12 15:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋