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When they start asking

2007-01-12 15:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 2 · 0 0

I think it is good to introduce the concept of humans producing offspring over the entire childhood so it is not a shock. That would mean children ages 2-4 knowing they have a penis of a vagina, and the parent should not be ashamed if the child asks a question like, "What's that?"

By 5-8 the child may begin asking questions about where children comes from and what sex is if they have heard about it from peers. I suggest being very brief and very honest about any questions they have. No need to overwhelm. "What is sex?" "Sex is how a man and a woman have a baby." That kind of thing. Very concrete answers cater to their developmental level. At this point, also begin to incorporate examples of animals having babies, too, like a cat with kittens or a neighborhood friend who had a baby. [Stay away from trying to input your own sexual ideologies, if you hold them, about whether it could also be between the same gender.] The simpler the better.

From 8-12 in the prepubescent stage for boys and the early pubescence for girls, you can tie their development into the idea of childbirth someday. Make sure you don't use any words that convey an unhealthy attitude, like "doing the nasty" "the dirty place" or "no-no spots". Try to share with girls and boys the awesome gift maturity is, and how precious it is and worth respecting. You can't start to early with this, because the media and popular culture has been barraging them for years already, believe it or not.

12-15 young men and women may be very uncomfortable discussing their development with their parents, but it might work very well if you get some books for them that will help answer some questions about maturity. Or, even better, just leave them in the house where they can get them when they desire to know. Make sure you talk to them about how some people get exploited and hurt by the desires of others: this is usually the time period when males with pornographic addictions begin their life-long struggle. Warn them about things they may see on the internet, and try to satisfy curiosity by being very frank and clear that you can be asked anything without judging.

At this point, if they have any question about the mechanics of sex, they will most likely become very uncomfortable at this discussion, but you may still outline it briefly and explain things that may be occurring (nocturnal emission, hair growth, breast development, and menstruation) to make sure they are not afraid. Make sure you understand the medical aspect of what menstruation is if you are working with a girl, and do NOT pass on any of the myths like... you can't do anything or be happy when you're on your period.

Hope that helps!

2007-01-12 15:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by therese magdalene 2 · 0 0

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2007-01-12 15:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I began to educate my children at about age 6. I began by telling them about how their bodies would change, and allowed them to ask any questions that they wanted to ask.

And they did.
I think when you make it comfortable for them, they are more comfortable with you. They respond best in a non threatening environment. Keep the conversation on their level, but I never used cutesy stories like "birds and bees" or anything. I told them straight what the parts of their bodies were called, and what to expect.

As for where babies came from, I told them that the man makes a seed and puts it inside them woman - after explaining marriage and commitment of course, and also after explaining that the woman has a very special place where the baby has to be protected while it's growing and getting ready to be born.
The next question was why does it stay in there so long? and I explained about the growth of the baby and how it has to be ready to be able to come out and live in our house.
As for the blood - I explained that the woman's body makes a really nice cushion like a pillow of blood, and that the baby is very comfortable and warm in there while it's growing.

The questions just flow from there. the important thing is, all of my kids now know that my space is comfortable to be in. They are all teens now, and don't come to me much anymore with questions, but they know they can.

2007-01-12 15:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

well since a fully functioning adult is 21 years of age who can drink and gamble, then i would say the day they turn this age since before this time they are still a child. Logically if you want a time period then this is the appropriate answer. But theoretically it doesnt make a difference. If a person isnt psychotic they wont watch a violent movie or beasteality porn and be a violent freak in thier lives. As soon as the child can comprehend the idea or asks then you tell them the truth. Honesty is the best option. Later.

2007-01-12 15:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I agree with "when they start asking". Just be sure that it isn't full disclosure if they are young. Make it age appropriate. Like if they are 4 and ask where babies come from, let them know just enough to answer their questions. They don't always want to know more - or even be able to process "full disclosure". Just answer the question they ask honestly. I bought a book that was age appropriate that not only outlined the difference in boys and girls, but explained the process. A book often makes it easier - read it to them and answer questions when they ask.

2007-01-12 15:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by itsjustfoolishness 3 · 0 0

only answer at her factor. in case you imagine she is mature sufficient, teach her a e book about it. there's a good one i recognize of referred to as Mommy How Did i'm getting right here? it truly is made for little ones. in case you imagine she is enormous sufficient, you are able to attempt showing her the action picture seem who's speaking. That shows theory and being pregnant contained in the female. it truly is all about how mushy you're and how mature she is. I informed my 8 year old sister (she grow to be 6 on the time) that children are like puzzles. A daddy has a piece and a mommy has a piece, and to make sure that a toddler to get in the mommy's tummy, both products must be practice at only the right time. i did not bypass into element on the instantaneous and he or she grow to be chuffed.

2016-10-30 23:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by bonanno 4 · 0 0

when they bring it up
don't jump the gun
I'm sure the bird is still eating the bees right now
slow down give it a little more time
unless questions are being ask then take one bird one bee at a time

2007-01-12 15:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by d1goodman4u 2 · 0 1

When you feel that they are mature enought to understand. Don't use the terminology of "the birds and the bees" when talking to them though,,,, make sure you call it sex. Other wise they will be distracted by a confussing metaphor and not paying attention to the message.

good luck

2007-01-12 15:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by K G 2 · 0 0

As soon as they are old enough to start asking the questions you should be answering them in terms they can understand. Don't overload them with information but give them enough information to satisfy their curiosity. Their learning of the facts of life should be a process, not just a one time discussion. By doing this, you show them that you are willing to answer any and all questions and they will be more likely to come to you if they need to talk..

2007-01-12 15:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I was going to say about nine or ten even possibly eight if they noticing or asking questions. Is important you get a good book that covers it all...Our Bodies Ourselves is a great book you can u can purchase which talks about it all and it has pictures. I mean it is embarassing but much worse when kids are uneducated. Good Luck..its a tough job but somebody has got to do it.

2007-01-12 15:28:46 · answer #11 · answered by beckibearforeva 1 · 0 0

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