4 month old boy has been co-sleeping in our room. Has slept thru the night since 4 weeks old!?

Question

However, he has been waking up for the past week all the sudden 3 to 4 times a night. I breast feed so it's easy to just pull him in bed and fall back a sleep.."BAD HABIT" forming I know! I just love having him there!! Well, tonight is the first night he is sleeping in his crib in his own room. I'm still wide awake and can't sleep! My husband blew up the air mattress and we put it on the floor in my sons room to sleep. of course my husband fell right asleep in there but I'm still wide awake. It just seems so nice and comfy to have my little one in my bedroom. I just know if he doesn't start sleeping in his own room now this bad habit of him being in my bed is gonna be harder on him the longer I wait.I plan on getting pregnant with our 2nd child here in 3 more months.I want our children very close in age growing up. okay so not really a question here but just looking for others that have had MOMMY ANXIETY not having my BABY N MY ROOM!!

Answer 1

First of all I don't think it is a bad habit. He probably is teething now which can cause a lot of night wakings for several months to come.
Right around 4 months old was when I would start putting my kids in their bed after they went to sleep at my breast in my bed. It is not a bad habit, especially since it is very comforting to you and your baby. If you fall asleep while he is eating, don't worry about it, just put him in his bed when you wake up.

At night when your baby wakes to eat, bring him back in bed, feed him, and then put him back to bed either when he is done eating or he falls asleep. He will learn that the place to sleep is in his bed, but if he calls, mommy will be there. This will develop the trust and bond that your little one needs to feel secure.

I could see if your son was much older and you don't want him to be in your room forever, but he is still so small and will only be small for a little while. Don't sweat it and do what feels right for YOU. This is YOUR baby. Good luck, momma!

Answer 2

We're still cosleeping 16 months later, I feel that when he's ready for a bed-he'll go into it. This is what happened with my niece and nephew-they were around 2. Right now he's cutting molars so it's just easier to comfort him real quick in bed versus rocking him in a chair and trying to contort my body to put a 30 pound child in a crib quietly! If he sleeps great with you, I don't see why it should be a problem. We're also trying for another baby-we'd use one of those bedside cosleepers for a baby.
edited for the people that always have concerns about mommy and daddy "relations"-you can do it somewhere other than the bed at a different time besides night-how boring would that be all the time!

Answer 3

I wanted my tiny baby in my room, and I think nursing in bed is a good habit. I got rid of the bed frame and put the mattress on the floor. I always started the night with the babies in the crib, then let them into bed when they woke up. When I got tired of co-sleeping, I stayed awake and transferred to the crib after the feeding. My first didn't want to leave the bed, but I was smarter about bedtime routines with my second. Now she won't sleep in the bed. She asks to go back to the crib. Do what you feel is right, and ask your husband to please be understanding. Infancy passes quickly.

Answer 4

I am a first time mom and I've never had a urge to sleep with my son, not even an inkling, he's been in his own room since 3 and a half months. It was hard to do but after the first couple of nights of mommy anxiety I knew everything was ok and fine because he was ok and fine. As for him waking up suddenly in the middle of the night sounds like he formed your bad habit....... Good luck

Answer 5

I have this and had it alot. My second baby was more attached to me than my first. We co-slept until he was 9 months and for whatever reason he just decided that he was ready to sleep in his bed. I miss those night when I would lay there wondering if I would EVER sleep alone in my bed with just my husband again.
Take a nap with him, bring him back to the bed if you want. Your baby will decide when he is done sleeping with you. If it's now, then like I said take a nap with him... then you still get some bonding time.

Answer 6

how a child will transition to a bed of there own all depends on the child - not their age. four months old is still SO young - he might be going through a growth spurt in which case of course he'll want to nurse all night long. right now the most important thing is for you both to be getting your sleep and if you both sleep better together then that is what should work for you. one person's so called "bad habit" is another persons dream scenario. there are numerous benefits to co-sleeping (as you've already discovered) - I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss it as not an option.

Answer 7

yeah that was my problem too. My son is short and he was able to fit it that co-sleeper until he was one. Now he is two and he still sleeps with us. I know it is hard to leave him you will have to make your decision now b/c it will get harder. By the way my son still does not sleep through the night. He will go right back to sleep but he wakes me up with his squirming and he will say mom or start whinning for a couple of seconds. I dont really mind it b/c I love having him next to me. I know my husband would love for him to sleep in his own room. It is easier said then done,

Answer 8

No worries... Do what you feel is best. Right now I have a two year old sleeping in between me and my husband along with our 4 month old son in the co-sleeper next to our bed... While sometimes (rarely) he will be in the bed with us as well. I plan on transitioning our baby into his own room and crib along with our 2 year old. However, I feel comfort in having them close by... Nothing wrong with that. Thankfully I have a king size bed.

Answer 9

Hi i did the same thing with my daughter and your right you need to break the habit now i only just manage to break her of the habit a month ago and she turns one in two weeks. If you are that worried about your baby during the night in another room what i found worked for me is by buying a baby monitor and sticking it in their room and next to you your able to hear them as if they were still in the crib next to you. once he is used to his own room and the sounds of it he will settle down and sleep through the night. Just remember once you decide to put him in his room you cannot renige and bring him back to bed with you. Other wise he will become very confused. Good Luck hope its easier for you then it was for me. By the way im also pregant with our second due in seven weeks so you understand that it will become harder as you get furthur pregant to break him of the habit.

Answer 10

First baby so scary!!! I don't think there is a right or wrong answer here it is your choice and when you feel ready to put him in his room you will. Alot of people I know kept there babys in thier room for the first year. My children stayed with me in my room for about 6 months I wouldn't worry to much about getting him to sleep in his own most of the time its not that hard of a transition, well at least for him!!