I think that some men would agree to having there wife go to bed when they do am i wrong? I;m not saying this about those who have to work at different hours but those that are home at night together. My spouse goes to bed early and gets up earlier then I do for work, so i go to bed later then my spouse does! but i wonder if that could be a problem anyway? I don't think so but people are different and i was just wondering what some would say about it.
2007-01-12 15:02:02 · 29 answers · asked by monkeymomma46 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes couples should go to bed at the same time... if they where dating and working different hours ... they would somehow make it work to sleep together..
It is the desire of being together.. and it starts separation of other things..
I know because I used to go to bed at a different time then my husband and we became further apart.. then we made a conscious effort to go to bed together and of course we became closer.
2007-01-12 15:23:59 · answer #1 · answered by Esther J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I go to bed at the same time, I cant sleep if hes not there. It sucks for him when hes on days off and not tired, but he is a man and can sleep almost any time. I dont know that this is a question of right or wrong, but personal preference. We have only been married for 7 months and are waiting on our new baby, so I would think that once we have been married longer and the kids are here and older, we will probably have different sleep times. But for now this works for us.
2007-01-12 15:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by krickee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about sharing your life with someone else. That could mean going to bed with them to share that time together. But it also could mean that you have separate and distinct lives that you each get a piece of but should not alter or control. How about a little compromise? You should live your life most of the nights but wouldn't it be nice to do something different once in a while just for the sake of the other person's enjoyment. Do it once a week even, in fact maybe you will both appreciate it even more that way.
2007-01-12 15:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mere Exposure 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are both in agreement, then I would think there is no problem. My husband and I are in a similar situation. Even though, we are home at night together, he goes to bed earlier as he must leave for work in the morning earlier than I. However, on the weekends he stays up later than I do and goes to bed later than I. We still absolutely find "bedtime alone-time" together even though our bedtimes do not generally coincide.
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2007-01-12 15:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by lildansr_23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO.
My wife likes it when I go to bed when she does, but that doesn't mean that it always happens that way.
Like right now, I'm typing this answer, she is in bed.
She says it helps her sleep if I'm there, but if I don't go to bed when she does, by the time I get there (usually 10-15 minutes later, she is out)
I guess in the end, it's all about preference. The best thing to do is talk to your spouse and find out what works best.
2007-01-12 15:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by ttown_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally find that I enjoy going to bed at the same time as my husband. For more reasons then the odvious (intimacy) we have more time to talk without the day to day interuptions of the children, housework, phone calls, company, business, work etc. We really have an opportunity to sit down and really talk about our day, if there is anything on our minds, sometimes we just cuddle and enjoy the peace and quite. I think it's important to go to bed at the same time. I think if there's distance in the bedroom there is going to be trouble to follow soon after.
2007-01-12 16:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lina looking for love from a chi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i work together and normally go to bed at the same time. we find we end up talking more after the lights are out then the whole day or time spent in the evening together. Work is work but at home we are more into each others feelings and emotions. we watch tv in the living room on the couch, eat dinner at the dinning room table, and go to bed together. Usually. on weekends and nights i go to the gym, and when i have my womans social meetings, going to bed is the only real time we have together.
2007-01-12 15:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by cloe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a husband wants to have sex, he might want his wife to come to bed with him. But that shouldn't mean she has to come to bed when he does every night. It also shouldn't mean she can't get back up after sex, if she's not ready for bed. There are certain signals married people use for this situation. When a husband suggests that his wife to come to bed, it usually means he wants sex. When the wife says she'll be up later, it usually means she's not interested.
The leash is too tight, when a spouse expects his wife (or husband) to come to bed with them every night. People are individuals, not machines.
2007-01-12 15:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my hubby always go to bed at the same time! Maybe I'll lay in bed and watch some T.V., and he will fall asleep before me, or the other way around. Although one never stays up, while the other goes into bed. I guess we never thought to have it any other way. But I know my husband wouldn't want me out, while he has to go to bed, and I wouldn't want him either. It would just be too hard to sleep I guess, it wouldn't feel right. LOL... But everyone's different.
2007-01-12 15:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I think the two of you are married and if you are not ready to go to sleep when the other is I don't think you should. You will probably end up stirring and disturbing the other person. Of course, there are those times when you will both go to bed at the same time and that is fine too.
2007-01-12 15:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋