okay. im so sick of hearing "you're racist" when i tell people that i dont date guys of my own race (black) why cant ppl just understand that its not racism. im in no way saying they are any less of a person because they are black. i try not to stereotype. i dont hate them. i respect them just as much as i respect myself. IM JUST NOT ATTRACTED TO THEM!! how hard is that to comprehend? if i was racist i wouldnt have black friends and i wouldnt spend time trying to get to know black ppl. obviously looks are 50 percent of the package- i cant date someone that i dont find the least bit attractive. i didnt choose to be this way. no one chooses who they are attracted to. NO- i have not had any "traumatic" experiences to make me feel this way. my parents are great and my dad is awesome - they have nothing to do with this. oh and i dont just date guys for their race! this just happens to be what i think is attractive but if your an *** then it makes no difference. mmk message me if you want!!
2007-01-12 14:59:59 · 18 answers · asked by Gone, Gone, Gone. 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
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2007-01-12 15:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by stealthisprofile 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I feel you. Im irish american and my husband is philippino. Ever since I started dating, my friends and family always complained why don't I date white guys. First of all, it's not like we never did. But when we do, we just weren't that interested. Oh well. I found other races kinda exoctic. And honestly, someone that has a problem with you being with other people, sound like the racists. Not You! People like us enjoy the color and flavor of other cultures and aren't put off by the differences that scare others away. It's like ice cream. Not everyone likes plain vanilla. Taste the flavors of the rainbow and follow your heart. FYI. I suggest manilla flavor.
2007-01-12 15:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by melisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating interracially does NOT make you a racist. You are attracted to who you are attracted to, regardless of race.
Enjoy your interactions with people of races and just ignore poor, misguided people who label you a racist.
Have a lovely rest of the evening.
2007-01-12 15:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by Goblin g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating interracially doesn't make you a racist. judging someone by the color of their skin does.
given the diversity of blackness in skin shades, size, facial features, hair, etc, you can't convince me that refusing to date a black man isn't prejudicial. Saying you don't like men who look like Denzil Washinton is showing a preference. Refusing to date in a race that has everyone from Shamar Moore to Terrance Howard to Rick Fox to Omar Epps etc is racist and you should make an honest assessment of yourself.
2007-01-13 01:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by smm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes when people make a point of race unnecessarily then they are being racist and just want to enter the racist fray . Join the human race and your racism will be lost . you can't make a racist deal by saying I'm a human and I'm dating another human .
Yes you promote racism for your own self interest.
2007-01-12 15:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, your attracted to who your attracted to. That's not much different than someone who dates only blonds or only brunettes. It's all about what one is attracted to. Maybe the people who say things about that are jealous, because you go for what you want and they just settle for what they have.
2007-01-12 15:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by us5we2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not racist! I hate how a black guy can go out with another race and nobody will say anything, but when a black girl does it people think she hates her race.
2007-01-12 15:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not racist. You don't hate blacks and you don't look down on them, it's just your own personal preference.
Just like some people don't like dating red heads. It's a preference, and not necessarily due to prejudice (though it is sometimes).
2007-01-12 15:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by LexiSan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- you are not a racist- confused maybe- but the good thing is you can date however you choose- it's all part of your life experience
2007-01-12 15:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by roydono 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's not racist... when you date you go after what you find attractive and it's about whatever turns you on or "rocks your boat." LOL.
2007-01-12 15:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course that doesn't make you racist.I had the same problem,especially growing up in Detroit.Everyone has their own preferences.
2007-01-12 15:06:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋