And I don't have any problem with that, but she won't stop being... grr. Like, she keeps asking me, every week, "If I were gay, would you stop being my friend?" and every time, I answer, "No, I wouldn't care, just realize I'm not and I don't want you to bother me" and whenever I tell her she asks that a lot, she's like "OH, I'M JUST JOKING!" Also, whenever she hugs me or something, she feels the need to say, "Molestation" in this really annoying high-pitched voice. It's making me extremely uncomfortable and she's really pissing me off, what can I do? /:
2007-01-12 14:38:39 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Not unless she pretty much humps you when she hugs you. Whenever I tell her that freaks me out and annoys me, she's like "but molest just means to bother" :B And I tell her to stop "bothering" me. And she keeps doing it anyway. I don't think she really even respects me that much sometimes, and it's getting on my nerves, and since I've already confronted her about twice, asked her to stop, and everything I can think of... I don't know what to do. /:
2007-01-12 14:47:32 · update #1
Sounds like she is testing the waters.Just be up front with her and tell her that you love her a friend but your not interested in loving her as a mate.
2007-01-12 14:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how it makes you feel when she says things like that. I'm glad to hear you say that it would make no differnece in how you see her as a person because really it doesn't change who she is.
She might really be having a hard time dealing with it herself so the next time she brings it up, perhaps you should react with "I already know you're a lesbian and that doesn't change the fact that I am and will always be your friend.
You really do though need to make it clear to her your personal space is being violated and you feel weird when she says things like that.
It might get her upset at first, but she will learn that you are someone she really can trust - I bet she already knows that.
Good luck and good for you being such a great friend to her while she's going through this.
2007-01-12 22:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is insecure about her sexuality, or at least insecure about what you think of her. This is apparent with her question, "If I were gay, would you stop being my friend?" I would tell her that if she is gay, you don't care and you will still love her like a friend. Also tell her that she doesn't need to make a joke about her sexuality (i.e. the "molestation" comment) because again, you accept her for who she is. People sometimes joke to hide behind their true feelings just to see how you would react. It is a safe haven for them because they can turn around and say, "Oh, I was just kidding."
2007-01-12 22:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Say Listen.... You Have Been Acting Strange With Me alot Lately... And Talking About Being Gay... "Are You Gay"? And Tell Her To Be Truthful... And That You Dont Care If She Is And You Dont Enjoy Her Being A Jacka**!
2007-01-12 22:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront her. Tell her the things you told us and make sure she knows that no matter what you are still her friend. You just might be the first person she comes out to and you want that to be a good experience for both of you.
2007-01-12 22:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by fluer_ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bluntly ask her if she is gay. It's that simple, however don't be tacky about it...once she knows that you are being sincere about it, maybe she will be open to telling you. You may be the first person she's told, so she is just testing the water. Reassure her, ask her, and reassure her...
I was a nervous wreck when I came out, but my friends were very accepting and that meant the world!!!
2007-01-13 00:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by C K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop. Don't be mean about it just tell her that that makes you feel akward and that you don't appreciate it. If she is really your friend she should understand and stop. Also call her out about being gay, I mean if you feel the need to or if you think that that's something that you need to talk about with her, maybe she just needs someone to talk to her about it. She is probably scared.
2007-01-12 22:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by Satan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming out can be a really difficult time for a person. You need to be patient and just let her come out on her own time. Gently remind her that it doesn't matter if she's gay or straight, you'll still accept her just the same. A person's sexuality doesn't define him or her anymore than the color of his or her hair or the shape of his or her nose.
2007-01-12 22:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by computers84 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is, indeed, gay, she is probably just really insecure and in need of support. But when she sees you getting annoyed over it, she gets even more insecure and needs MORE support, so it's a vicious cycle. I don't, however, think that is the case. I think she is just going through a phase where she is just finding herself and thinking more about her sexuality, so just let this pass and show her supposrt(just incase)
2007-01-12 23:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by meghanhappy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL weirrrrrd! Next time she asks you, be straight-up with her. "ARE you gay?" and then reassure her that although coming out would be difficult at first, she'd feel a lot better and honest with herself.
If she's just annoying you and doesn't really mean it, tell her
2007-01-12 22:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by kellz8706 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋