he goes to my church and i try to stay away from him, but he always manages to find me and do everything possible to get me mad. he has keep this up for almost a year and i don't know how much more i can take. i really need some suggestions on this. please help me if you can. thanks.
2007-01-12 14:24:36 · 18 answers · asked by 19D Lil Sis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the problem is that i have tried most of these suggestions and nothing will get this guy away from me. i have talked to him many times in polite ans not so polite ways and it just makes it worse. he always does it in a large group even when a pastor is close by, and he knows EXACTIALLY what will push me over the edge and makes me explode. i try really hard not to, but sometimes i can't take it any more. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
2007-01-12 14:34:05 · update #1
Pray alot and completely ignore him. He knows he bugs you and wants to make you mad. Take control back and act as if he doesn't exist.
2007-01-12 14:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one suggestion will end all future interaction. Next time he finds you, look him in the eye, kind of like you like him. Tell him to follow you. Take him around the corner, or out of view of most people. Get really close to him, and then KNEE him in the Groin, as hard as you can. No witnesses, and I guarantee this will keep him from bothering you, at least while within reach, for the rest of your life. Repeat treatment as necessary until he gets the message. Sometime violence is the answer.
2007-01-12 14:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could confront him and ask him what his problem is, providing he's not behaving in an aggressive manner. If not, you could perhaps go to church with a friend so that you can have company if you feel threatened. But, if things are really upsetting you you could ask other members of the church if they know why he is behaving in this way, or even see if any know him on a level to which they could ask him why is behaving in this way. Hope this is of some help to you.
2007-01-12 14:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an immature moron. Was there something that happened between you two or is he just trying to get attention? Some people see any attention as better than no attention. In otherwords maybe he really likes you on some level but fears that you would never talk to him normaly so he acts stupid to get your attention and reaction.
2007-01-12 14:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by QandA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing you can do is try to get some space between you and he, Theres a chance he likes you, but is immature enough to still be approaching in the way a grade schooler would.
If it's at church have a talk with the minister or if all else fails and you've asked him in a mature way, then get a restraining order, verbal abuse is still abuse.
2007-01-12 14:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mystee_Rain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There used to be this guy at my church.and to get attention he would go around pinching gurls. made me and my friends so mad so we decided to set him up with this gurl who we knew liked him. And it worked he had a gurl friend so he had no need to bug us any more because he was to busy hanging with and impressing his new gurl friend. Hope it works out for u.
2007-01-12 14:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by lostandconfused200 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a different church or involve yourself in a group in the Church so he cant obviously tease or intimidate you
If that dont work go with Chris W
2007-01-12 14:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Bren0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha. i think he either likes you or hates you, have you tried telling him that you really don't like him treasting you so disrespectfully and that you will report him to the police for harrasment if he does not stop? i've done that before and the guy was sudenlly nice and appoligetic.
2007-01-12 14:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can explain to him with a trusty friend by your side how you feel. If not talk to the pastor or one of his associates. they should be able to handle it in a cristian manner.
2007-01-12 14:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your pastor, and ask the pastor to ask him to stay away...he will most likely not want the pastor to think poorly of him, and he'll back off a little.
2007-01-12 14:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋