I have been with my b/f for for 2 yrs. Everything was fine until 4 days ago he says he wants a "break" because he doesnt know if he wants to commit to someone who has kids. He says he thought he could get used to kids, but as much as he has tried, he just can't. He doesn't have any. He says that he has been thinking about the future more and more and the more he thinks about living with me and my girls, the more he thinks he can't. He has always gotten along with them and never mentioned anything before. What the heck is happening? Should I just cut all attachments to this man, even though I love him so, or should I give him time to "re-evaluate" the relationship. Please, anyone who could give me some advice, I would appreciate it.
2007-01-12 14:13:47 · 5 answers · asked by tonic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Best advice I ever got: When a man tells you who he is, listen.
He has said he cannot do it, so let him go. Find someone who can love you AND your kids because fact is, your kids are there for life, a guy isn't.
2007-01-12 14:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Bones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 23:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing, thats gotta hurt...it sounds like he is having doubts, but if he did really truly love you then he wouldnt let your kids become between that...also you have to think about your children, he cant keep coming and going becoz that will affect your children not just u...Tell him how much you love him but he has to decide what he want from life, you and your children or another life with out you's...i hope it works out for you and my advice has helped in any way :)
2007-01-12 14:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End this relationship completely. He said he cannot get "used" to kids. He thinks he cannot live with you and your girls. You don't need this guy, and it would not be healthy to keep him around your girls. They have to come first. Good luck.
2007-01-12 14:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'll take the tonic if he don't want it
2007-01-12 14:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋