2007-01-12 13:55:55 · 8 answers · asked by coolstud669 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tough issue here. You might seriously consider going to couples counseling; not to get together again but to deal with the significant problems of dealing with the kids. Both parents have to handle this tenderly and with lots of love for the kids. Remember, sometimes kids think they're the cause of the divorce, or they drove Daddy away, or something like that. Whatever you do, don't tell your kids they "have to take care of Mommy now". Kids are kids, not parents, not adults. They look at life from different eyes. Recognize that. Believe me, counseling helps, both of you. Also, try some books.
2007-01-12 14:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A possible divorce is usually caused because someone is being selfish and having an affair. So, then everyone in the family has to suffer. The best way to talk with kids about this is to say that Mommy and Daddy love you and will always love you very much. Daddy and Mommy will no longer be married and live together but will always be your Daddy and Mommy and love you very much. Obviously the kids won't be getting the best childhood life they deserve because they won't be having both parents live with them but that is how it turns out because one of the parents gets their priorities messed up and becomes very selfish. All you can do from that point on is to try to be the best parent you can be to your kids whether you are the parent that is mainly there with them or the parent that has basically become a part-time parent.
2007-01-12 15:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on their ages, you just have to sit them down and tell them what is happening. It would be good if mom and dad could do it together. Explain that it has NOTHING to do with them but the two of you couldn't make the relationship work! Reinforce that! And mom and dad may not be together in the same house but you both will always love your kids. Make them feel as secure as possible! There are some good books in the bookstores with photos that help explain divorce to younger kids. Good Luck!
2007-01-12 14:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have each and every suitable to be apprehensive, yet regardless of takes place it relatively is not any longer your fault. Marriage isn't common for each guy or woman -- even those couples that seem ok. Marriage takes a number of paintings even whilst U R in love after some years. Your mothers and dads are combating subject concerns, it is for optimistic. my own husband went via a level the place he theory i replaced into no longer working as no longer common as he replaced into, and he replaced into constantly yelling at me that i replaced into no longer a sturdy adequate abode keeper. It broke my coronary heart, and that i arranged to flow away, then i finished and desperate i replaced into no longer approximately to resign. So I placed myself into relatives counseling, and we are nonetheless mutually. i wished to end elevating my babies, regardless of if my husband and that i cut up as quickly as they graduate from intense college. consult with the two one among them -- tell them U love them the two and U choose they could wait and spot with one yet another and take a sturdy seem at each and every of the valuable issues they nonetheless have --- like U and your brother. perchance it relatively is going to help, and perchance no longer. yet provide it your maximum suitable shot. Divorce isn't enjoyable and now and lower back human beings do it too right this moment. sturdy success son.
2016-12-13 04:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them mommy and daddy need a break from each other and reassure them it is NOT their fault.
Tell them how much you love them. Think about it long and hard before you talk to them, is it what you really want? Ask them if they have any questions. Let them know if one of you will be moving out etc etc...
2007-01-12 14:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them know up front its not heir fault. and you both love them very much, however...............mom and dad arent happy with eachother anymore. explain explain explain dont let them feel alone and scared. let them know you both will always be there for them no matter what.......try to stayfriends for your kids .....its the best way trust me
2007-01-16 10:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by teapea102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them you can't be married anymore. You have to live apart. I'm sure they know you are not happy together.
2007-01-12 14:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit them down and tell them the truth I'm sure they probaly already know that it's coming.
2007-01-12 14:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋