2007-01-12 13:52:58 · 16 answers · asked by Coriii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As long as you have tried to get along with him and if it is an impossible situation I guess that there is not a lot that you can do to make the relationship work.
I guess you just keep away from each other and try to be polite and civil to each other when in other peoples company.
2007-01-12 13:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking things over with him in a mature and open minded manner. Fact if live is he is involved in your life at present and hopefully treats your mother and you both with respect and love. Sometimes kids find it difficult the new change when a stepparent comes into the house, and begin to resent the person for the changes as they would prefer things to remain as they were. But another fact is that you're not going to be there forever and he will be there for your mom after you've left. I'm certain that you are most concerned for your mom's happiness also and so may have to bend a bit until you and your stepdad do start getting along better. But if you approach him and show that you have a backbone and tell him honestly what is bothering you I'm sure that you'll not only gain his respect for having the balls to do so, but the two of you may be able to resolve issues that are present between the two of you. You also will have to keep and open mind as will he because the both of you may hear things that you don't like to hear but if both are honest and open minded anything can be solved. Best of luck to you and I do hope that you and your stepdad are able to get along better after your conversation.
2007-01-12 14:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an effort from both sides. Try to talk to him and let him understand why you can't get along with him. The more you bump heads the worse it will be in the long run. Get it out in the open a sore heart can cause hatred and hatred can kill a person inside and destroy what could have been a helping friendship. He is there by your mothers choice. I don't know the details why? But try to get a long for everyones piece of mind. Good Luck
2007-01-12 14:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to put yourself in his shoes. Maybe he doesnt like you either. Is he a decent guy? Works? Your mom love him? Is he good to her? If yes, maybe you should try a little harder. My stepdad was a prick too, until i moved out and then we got along great. Now that I look back I was as much of a jerk, or more, than he was. Make the best of it...it's not forever, right??!
2007-01-12 13:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you need to tell us why you don't... it is different if you hate him because you miss your dad, or because he is not that good with your mom.
What I suggest is that you realize what is the thing that you don't like and see if you can deal with it, or ask your stepdad to change it or to stop doing it when he is with you. How come is he going to realize that you don't like what he does if he doesn't know that bothers you?
If the thing is not that easy, maybe you can tell your mom how you feel and try to give a solution to your problem. Remember that the clue to solve your problem is speaking and communication.
Good luck!!
2007-01-12 14:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i understand what is it about him that you don't like? Maybe you should share your feelings with him in a respectable manner, or talk to your mom about how you feel maybe you & her can come up with something to where the three of you can talk, if that doesn't work talk to a friend about it really i think you should give him a chance yeah it's rough but if can hang in ther you'll be okay. One day you'll see that he's more of a help to you than a problem just you wait and see.
2007-01-12 14:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by deezbrats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try bonding with him it is very hard for teens and kids to go thru divorce and getting new ppl in your life but its natural i would @ least give him a chance mabe do somthing together like,if you like just talk with each other work evry thing out tell him what you don`t like about him and what you both can do to change give him a try.Good-luck.
2007-01-12 13:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom, explain why and see if other living arrangements can be made. (friends, family, etc.) Counseling sounds good, but usually the parents don't want to go...they think you're making things up. But we know you aren't. Maybe get your school counselor to help you talk to your Mom. You need someone on your side.
Good luck ! [[[ ]]]
2007-01-12 14:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to pinpoint the issues and see if you guys can work on them. if you can approach your step dad with your concern and issues then by all means go ahead and do so. if you cant tell your mother and see if she can help bring you two together so that you can express what you feel. if you can't go to your mother try a family member that you trust if your in school you can always go to your counsler. either way i hope you find your and good luck
2007-01-12 14:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by azeris23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes no matter what you do you never will get along with him. Try learning about the guy and compromising. Unless he's not willing to budge then... who knows.
2007-01-12 14:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by confusedstocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋