I am 8 months pregnant and my husband left us. he has hurt me so bad but i miss him so much. He wants to see me but i stay far away form him. i feel so bad. how can i make myself feel better.
2007-01-12 13:51:59 · 10 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't make yourself feel better only time will do that. You need to get through the grief of his betrayal and deal with all the negative emotions that go along with that. Not only did he abandon you but he left your child. Women can forgive a great deal but it is much harder if it is something involving their children. I don't blame you for staying away from this man. It must hurt to think about all the dreams that you two had and he threw them all away.
Maybe with time you can think about some kind of reconciliation but right now you really have to focus on not stressing yourself out. You are carrying a baby and you should be doing all those fun mom-to-be things instead of feeling badly about what this husband has done to you.
Try and get some counselling or if that is not possible sit down with a close friend and talk about your emotions. Write them out, talk about being angry, hurt, sad, confused, etc. This will be the only way that you can heal from this. You need to work through the pain because this is not something that you can simply get over. I wish you luck and I can understand your pain, your heart must feel like it is broken. God bless it will get better.
2007-01-12 14:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are feeling bad. You are pregnant so hormones are running rampant, your husband has left you, he has hurt you badly but you still love and miss him. What do you have to feel happy about RIGHT ?? WRONG, you will have a gorgeous little baby to love and worry about in no time and that will certainly cheer you up. What did your husband do that was so bad ?? Did he cheat on you ?? Whatever he did is it so unforgivable ?? Do you not think you will ever get back together again ?? Take heart in knowing that a lot of us on her really feel for you and wish you well with everything. Maybe one day you will learn to forgive your husband and will become a happy family once more. If not at least you will have your son/daughter to comfort you until you are feeling happier in yourself. Good luck
2007-01-12 22:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you're scared and lonely and feeling abandoned.
I'm not sure why you are avoiding him but you've got to consider whether or not he will play a role in this baby's life regardless or whether or not the two of you will get back together.
As for trying to feel better, think of the beautiful baby you are going to have in a few weeks, spend time with friends, read books, take a walk, get out of the house, listen to your Ipod or just indulge yourself and veg out on the couch. The main thing is not to dwell in being sad. Think of things that you can do to improve and change the situation. Always know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel (there is!)
Good luck to you. If you want to chat you can send me an email at ashco789@yahoo.com.
2007-01-12 21:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by DannyGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what's best for you and your baby. If he left you once it's a possibility he could do it again. You don't want him to be in and out of your child's life. Maybe you could talk to him and just see why he now wants to be around you. But be careful so you don't just let him walk back into you and your babies life and run away again.
2007-01-12 21:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by Koolaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is no time to focus on him. Focus on yourself and your baby. You can say to yourself- if he wants back in- he'll need to come back as a grown-up and take responsibility like he should. Make yourself happy. Bake a cake, take a nice long walk, go to the beach or go shopping.
2007-01-12 21:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did your husband leave you and if he wants to see you then see him and try to work on your marriage.... Does he want to get back together with you or not? Seek counseling and help if he wants to work on the marriage with you and reconcile!
2007-01-12 23:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a loser to leave you at a time like that. Try to forget him, and concentrate on yourself, and you soon to be baby. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-12 22:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont know what to say except im sorry. that really sucks. surround yourself with friends and family and a gallon of ice cream. about seeing him... i wouldnt just yet... but it is his baby too, so at some point you will be seeing him.
2007-01-12 21:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by marine's girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hugs to you hon!--You are depressed, adn you should be, talk to a doctor about it and reach out to your friends for support. You need it right now.
2007-01-12 21:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by Missy Lyons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think about it. think about something else...
2007-01-12 21:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Answer Gurl♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋