He needs some advice on getting more effection from is wife? She says he hurt her to much in the past emotional? Trying to gett her back but she his afraid to be hurt emotional again?
2007-01-12 13:46:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your friend realizes he hurt his wife, and is sorry he did, then he should make some changes. Are they separated? There is an old saying,"The family that prays together, stays together." From many years experience, I would say to your friend, give your heart to the Lord Jesus, tell him your sins/faults and ask him to forgive you and come into your life. He can change your whole life. I'm not saying eveerything will be perfect, but he will give you a peace that is beyond human understanding.
If your friend does this and means it with all his heart, there will be a definate change, and his wife is sure to see it. Tell him to ask her to go to church with him.
2007-01-12 13:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I don't know what your friend did but women need to be treated like nothing in the world actually matters. When your friend got married, he made a solemn promise to giver her his undivided attention, which he did not - but all is not lost. You should tell him to take baby steps in proclaiming his love for her and going back to the first days they met and using those memories in trying to persuade her that he did remember everything she did for him and that he's the one who messed up pretty bad...make sure that he tell her outright that it is his own mistake that got him into this mess the first place. Again, take it one step at a time. He will need to win back the love he lost. Buy her a single stem rose, call her once a day and see how she is doing and ask her for forgiveness. Maybe he can also tell her that he is attending church to make him a better person in understanding her needs.
2007-01-12 13:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by TJK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you must promise yourself and God that you are not going to hurt your wife anymore (regardless in any way). Then show her your love, pamper her, be with her, everyday if possible. If you can't be with her, call her frequently and be concern in whatever she does. Do house chores together, praise her on her beauty, pamper her with gifts if you can afford it (you don't have to wait for her birthday!), it don't have to be expensive. You should know what she likes and admires. Pamper her physically too, like touching her and flirting with her just like your courting days.. bring back the memories when both of you were in love... It takes a lot of effort but it will be worth it!!
2007-01-12 13:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by amy kz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's where I'm at with my husband. It's really hard for a woman to even put her heart back in it after it's been broke so many times. It's up to her if she's going to forgive and forget. In time, if he don't mess up again she might fall back in love with him. She's going to have her guard up for a very long time so the best advice I can give is wait it out (while trying to show her he loves her and he's not going to do it again).
2007-01-12 13:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to start small and win back her trust. Tell him to try rubbing her feet or back in the evening. Tell him to do small favors for her out of the bedroom that makes her realize how much he loves her. tell him to say i love you and take her out and romance her. if he trys hard enough he should be able to win her back if not then maybe he hurt her so bad in the past she will never forgive her and it would be like beating a dead horse!
2007-01-12 14:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a no win situtation..the luster is gone and all is lost if they stay together it better be for more than love..Once a woman does this to a guy well its pretty much over no matter what.. they will pretend everyday but thats all ..As far as getting more affection from her..if he succeeds he needs to write a book how to do that.You have any idea how many men beg,plead,threaten, and everything else for affection and the wife has gotten a ho hum attitude after one year ?good luck
2007-01-12 13:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 10:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible to do so much damage that it can't be fixed - but the best advise is to get real counseling.
there are too many variables for a short answer. really.
2007-01-12 14:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by bl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋